Jeff.?.?

centerfielder08's picture

Jeff...I need your help with something. is there a way to delete my account? i'm not sure I should be on here anymore...what, with my stupid accounts of suicide.

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centerfielder08's picture

Just not yet...but soon?

Just not yet...but soon?

jeff's picture

Well...

I wouldn't want you to confuse our sending you elsewhere for suicide support for you not being welcome here. Once you are getting more help and better drugs on that side of things, then you still have sexuality and gender stuff that could benefit from a site filled with supportive peers ready to help you.

And, again, even sending you elsewhere isn't that we don't want you to be helped, but that you need more specific support than we can give. So, we want you to get help, not just distraction.

That said, I can delete accounts, but they don't just get deleted. All your posts would remain on here and just get assigned to the "anonymous" account, so if you search on Eli after your account was deleted, any post would still be here, just written by anonymous. There just wouldn't be a centerfielder08.

I do prefer text to remain on the site, since you've been given a lot of advice by a lot of caring people. So, if someone else suicidal comes on the site, and searches, they can read everything we told you without having to type a word. So, I do think there is a lot of benefit to that.

If you want your account gone AND your text to all be gone, you have to manually edit every post/comment/reply/etc. you did on here to contain no text. Then I'll still delete the account, and blank posts would go to the anonymous account.

I've no clue why there isn't just a more graceful account deletion process, but that's how the software works for whatever reason. I think it is because if you get deleted, everyone who commented on your posts gets deleted; and if you comment in a forum, everyone who replied directly to your post has their content removed as a result. So, the anonymous thing preserves what everyone else has written on the site.

So, there are the two deletion paths, although if you want a break from Oasis, you can always not log in. Take two months off. Whatever. Site's not going anywhere... except hopefully to a more reliable host soon.

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"People who are happy are slugs... They do not move the human race forward."
-- Camille Paglia, on Oasis

centerfielder08's picture

okay. maybe i'll just take a

okay. maybe i'll just take a break. A lot of times, I just need the extra push to get help. Monday I have my next evaluation. I understand that oasis can only give me so much. am I valuable to the site ?

jeff's picture

Sure...

Everyone contributes on here. Reaching out, being heard, making friends.

If anything, you have had a dramatic turn here to start with. It probably only gets better once you take care of yourself, and then can just settle in and come here to unwind, relate, talk with friends.

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"People who are happy are slugs... They do not move the human race forward."
-- Camille Paglia, on Oasis

centerfielder08's picture

Hopefully soon I'll be

Hopefully soon I'll be better. :D
Thanks Jeff.