the love that dare not speak its name

wilde_sapphire's picture

So here is a quick question Oasis, since coming out is a big issue on this lovely site I was wondering if it mattered whether or not you had stuck a specific label on yourself before telling people your secrets. Like for me, I am pretty sure I'm not going to start liking guys anymore than I do right now, which isn't very much, but I am afraid if I come out as a lesbian no one would understand if I ended up liking a guy in the future. I wouldn't mind coming out as bisexual at all, but I admit I don't want the stigma that seems to always be wrongfully attached, anyway I just want to know your opinion on what I should say or if I shouldn't say anything at all until I'm 100 percent sure, which I don't think is ever going to happen.


jeff's picture


I'm all for avoiding labels as much as possible. People who are 100 percent sure of anything are boring. Don't be one of them.

I'd say you're "open." Not sure that will make the people asking these questions happy, as people like putting things in familiar, specific boxes. But it certainly works, if someone comes along that interests you, you're open to see where that goes...

"People who are happy are slugs... They do not move the human race forward."
-- Camille Paglia, on Oasis

Cleverer's picture

I so get what you're saying...

I hate labeling anything, even my desk drawers.
And I know what you mean about feeling like you'll never be sure... I feel like I'll never be ready to make any definite declarations about how I identify myself.