Yes, no, he likes me, he likes me not

Uncertain's picture


I'm such an asshole.


Tophat's picture

And that, my love, brings up

And that, my love, brings up this: Do you care?

oxox Tophat

Send not to know for whom the bell tolls,

It tolls for thee.

elph's picture

You could just try to be friends...

...that is probably all that is important right now. Time will tell!

It's getting late, go to bed and your dreams will likely provide needed insight.

You're not an *******!

Uncertain's picture

Brain Overload

Hey guys. Thanks for that...

I'm really confused as well. I can't say I don't care, but it's just that I have other priorities in life right now. Yet somehow if I put other things (like school, study, socialising) ahead of him, it might make me look like I don't care about him... and I don't want him to get that idea. He just came at the wrong time. Just when I ended a relationship a few weeks ago and starting to enjoy being single again - I don't want a relationship?

He's a friend from primary. He got (I assume really) drunk tonight and texted me questions like 'do you think we'll ever go out' and then kept apologising profusely for being weird, then admitted he's liked me for years (I kind of doubt he's liked me that long, again I just think he's really off his face).

Point is, I don't even know why it's such a big deal...

Maybe because I don't know if I like him, and even if I do I don't know if I have time for him. Because if I want to go out with him I want to treat him right... because he also said he wants a serious relationship with me (then contradicting himself a little bit saying maybe we should wait till we're more mature so it'll be better if we go out in the future instead, assuming I will)... which I said is silly... if he likes me (especially for so long already) why does it matter? Sounds like he thinks he's only got one shot at me and he doesn't want to screw it up...

I didn't tell him exactly how I feel. Because I'm not sure myself either. I did ask if he wanted to hang out in the weekend though. I hope that's the right thing to do - I'm kind of giving him a chance... and testing the waters myself?

Okay, that probably doesn't make any sense at all.

Time for bed. Another busy week ahead.


elph's picture

Have a great week...

Hi Max,

Confusion at this juncture is an understandable response, particularly considering the time you've known each other with neither having previously shown any overt inclination beyond friendship (correct?). I do strongly empathize, however, with your friend's current emotional state. He's clearly hurting...

From what I glean, you tend to feel genuine empathy (if not outright responsibility) for the feelings you inspire in others. This is an admirable characteristic that you will likely have to live with. But this can also prove a burden if you try too hard not to disappoint the transitory(?) wishes of others.

At this juncture, I think you have your priorities in proper order: school, study, socializing.

With your tact, I'm confident that you'll make the right decision.

Uncertain's picture


Thanks elp, I see you like to structure things and logically deduce them? Your congratulatory comments are really encouraging - thanks for that. And a very practical and concise response, I like.

I hope you're correct about me. I tend to be quite aware and in touch and in control of my emotions most of the time, until it comes to relationships - then everything is not so black and white. When it comes to that, things aren't so absolute as I want them to be - and I'm still exploring relationships and learning from them.

Regardless of whatever happens, life goes on! I'm still young, got all the time in the world to enjoy life and make mistakes.

Tophat's picture

Meaning, darling, he's

Meaning, darling, he's trying to ound intelligent.

Don't use long words if you wouldn't normally use them. Otherwise you sound phony as chartruse snake oil.

Send not to know for whom the bell tolls,

It tolls for thee.

Peregrine's picture

well if you need some help

well if you need some help you know where to find me!!!!

Nemo Ante Mortem Beautus--- No man is blessed before he dies.

Uncertain's picture

Of course

Thank you shadow! I should be okay though :) But nice to know

elph's picture

Please...Be Cautious

Hi Max,

Your comments are appreciated.

However, the news from Auckland today (12 May) of an older HIV-infected youth-predator on the loose is quite unnerving.

Very little as to specific details, but please, please be very cautious and make sure your friends are aware of this lurking menace!

Uncertain's picture


Lol, you seem to keep track of NZ current events better than I do. Yeah, I just read about that. Infecting seven young people... intentionally - that's unforgivable. Although I'm skeptical that I'll ever have such encounter with said man, thanks for the warning. Better be safe than sorry I suppose.