Icarus's picture


i think i just pissed her off.

we were talking about her life and how she's pretty much jerking these three girls around, and while i understand that she's tried to set boundaries and pretty much make this a "friends with benefits" thing, i also know her and that it's hard to keep it that way with someone like her.

which is what i just told her.

i also told her that i felt like it was a pretty unhealthy way to look for affection. and while i probably could've said it in a different manner, it was pretty much what i meant.

she was quiet for a minute, and then wrote, in a nutshell, "i'm ok with it. those are my rules. i know who i love and who i love to be around. if i like someone i'll date them, but i don't like many people and i don't make compromises. my life, my fun, my rules."

and then she signed off.

somehow i feel like a i hit a nerve somewhere.

and i'm definitely not going to apologize for what i said and if she can't handle it, whatever, i guess that's that.

i'm not saying that i don't care for her, but i'm tired of surrendering my integrity for the sake of nonconfrontation.


Zephyr's picture

I'm going to be honest with

I'm going to be honest with you and myself. I can be like the person you're talking about. And I think you're right about striking a cord or a nerve or whatever you want to call it. It was good that you confronted her even though she says she knows what she's doing, it's good to hear from someone else. Hang in there, if you want to talk, or rant. I'm here to do so. Just message me.
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patnelsonchilds's picture

Sometimes the best thing you

Sometimes the best thing you can do for someone you care about is to tell them what they don't want to hear. Of course, it's always a risk to your relationship, whatever it may be, which is why doing it is something you want to be judicious about. Obviously you felt this needed to be said, so you were right to have said it. From what you have said, to not have done so would have cost you something even more valuable.


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ReinbowGrl's picture

you go girl?! - - - - - - -

you go girl?!

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Grow tall sugarcane, eat that soil, drink the rain. But know that they'll chase you if you play their little games. So run, run fast, sugarcane.