what are your thoughts feelings regarding age differences

its up to the individuals
100% (15 votes)
its wrong
0% (0 votes)
Total votes: 15


aboyseeker's picture

anyone should have the right

anyone should have the right to be with who they want to be with

bulldyke's picture

i'm a total cradle robber,

i'm a total cradle robber, so i don't get to judge.

to see a world in a grain of sand
and a heaven in a wild flower
hold infinity in the palm of your hand
and eternity in an hour

~William Blake

jeff's picture


Too vague to answer the poll...

I think there is a huge difference between an "age difference" and "intergenerational dating." If you're in the same school (and the older one isn't the teacher, I should add), then that's fine.

When it comes to the intergenerational stuff, I know people who seek it out and have had great experiences. But I do think that's the minority.

Usually when it comes to decade(s)-plus age differences involving much younger partners, the common charge is the maturity of the younger person, and how it all balances out. But I think there is also the immaturity of the older party in play here, and that the younger isn't meeting the older where they are, but rather they are meeting in the middle. The problem that often happens is that the younger one will continue to mature, and eventually be with an immature partner.

I am a bit concerned with someone named "aboyseeker" asking these things on Oasis, though. If you're young and looking for support, this is a great site. If you're older and looking for a younger partner, this isn't your site.

"People who are happy are slugs... They do not move the human race forward."
-- Camille Paglia, on Oasis

elph's picture

Commendable Response!

...If you're older (that's me) and looking for a younger partner (that's definitely not me), this isn't your site.

jeff's picture


I should have added: If you're older and want to help younger people feel supported and help them come to terms with things, you're welcome here.

"People who are happy are slugs... They do not move the human race forward."
-- Camille Paglia, on Oasis

ferrets's picture


that is slightly concerning....

if you riase the banner of scotland, you raise the banner of freedom!
~willam wallace

loreonpravus's picture

age doesn't matter unless

age doesn't matter unless you're wine or cheese.

But seriously, I think if both parties are old enough to know what's going on, then it's really up to them.

jeff's picture

I have two sets of rules...

There's "What I'm OK with in the outside world" and "What I'm OK with on Oasis."

If older guys date 18 y/os in the outside world, that's fine.

If older guys come on Oasis to find 18 y/os, that's not fine.

That said, we discourage every user to not use this as a hook-up site. The difference, to me, is that the young Oasis members can actually get more out of the site without the sexual element, whereas if you're older and into younger guys, it might seem more like putting in your time until you score.

Of course, I also think hanging out here is an amazing hebephilic cure. You may still think the bodies are slamming, but once you learn what's going on in the heads... you'll want to go after older guys. :-)

"People who are happy are slugs... They do not move the human race forward."
-- Camille Paglia, on Oasis