Icarus's picture

"I just want you to be happy. I just want you to do what's best for you."

That's all fine and dandy, but I think subconsciously, as I weaseled my way out of my bright future, I wanted one person to look at me with determination and disappointment and say, "I expected better of you." I wanted one person to be completely and totally selfish and say straight to my face, "What you're running to isn't worth what you're throwing away."

I think I would've stayed.

I live a life of lowered expectations. From myself and from everyone else. I always have. I was never punished for having low grades, I was never grounded for not winning something or missing some important date. I was encouraged to do my best, whatever my best may have been or what I thought my best was.

Please know I do not blame anyone but myself for these shortcomings, I'm merely working out what has been eluding me, which is, because I think I'm incapable of achieving my own high standards, I either set myself up for failure, or disappoint those who would see the most promise in me. I preemptively disappoint those I admire the most to save them the bigger disappointment my future actions might cause. Someone expects me to get an A, I get a B+. Someone expects me to come in first, I come in second.

I do this even to myself. I resign myself to slipping by onto third to save myself the failure of working for first and losing it. Part of this is inherent laziness, but most of it is pure and simple basic fear. I fear major failure, so I set myself up for minor disappointment to cushion the blow. I take third place, telling myself I would have never gotten first anyway...even though I really wanted it. I hold myself back from being the best for fear of being mediocre and never realizing it.

It is only now, in this late hour, that I realize that to fail is to learn a different way to succeed.


ReinbowGrl's picture

You forgot the part where

You forgot the part where YOUR actions and choices have consiquences and YOU have to live with them. It doesn't do you any good to complain about it. Can you change it? Will it matter in 10 years? If not, accept it and move on to how you can succeed in this new situation.

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Grow tall sugarcane, eat that soil, drink the rain. But know that they'll chase you if you play their little games. So run, run fast, sugarcane.

Icarus's picture


um...this isn't me complaining about anything. i'm simply...thinking out loud in essence. for me to figure things out, it helps for me to write them down, and i just happen to like writing them down here. the more i work out, the more i have to work through.

so for those of you falling in love
keep it kind, keep it good, keep it right
throw yourself in the midst of danger
and keep one eye open at night.
--"Elephants" Rachel Yamagata

ShowMeLove's picture


Maybe you just haven't found something in life that you feel really passionate about. That you really want to work towards. I know that's the way I feel a lot of the time.

Once upon a time I ripped the wings from my spine
But when I hide inside your eyes I still pretend that I can fly