Holy Crap Did I Really Do That

cantbreathe's picture

... yes, yes I did. I came out to my mom. We were walking along the lakefront, on our way to some play thing or other, and it went something like this:

Me: "So, um, Mom, can I talk to you about something?"
Mom: *pause* "Sure..."
*insert overly long silence in which I stare at my hands*
Me: "I, um, I think I might, uh, I, I like girls."
*this pause was probably only half a minute or so, but it felt like hours*
Mom: "Well, I don't think that's all that uncommon, especially at your age..."
(that's my mother for you, always the math teacher, always rationalizing)
Me: *Mumble mumble* "yeah."
Mom: "What about S?" (A guy I hang out with a lot, I think she kinda thought we had a thing going)
Me: "He, um, he knows."
Mom: "Who have you told?"
Me: "Uh, S, (a few other friends), and, uh, W kinda figured it out." (My best, insaaanely gorgeous female friend)
Mom: (Wearing one of those typical mom expressions that says, "hhhhmmmmm, I'm going to figure out what's going on there") "Oh, alright then. Well, I will, ah, respect your privacy." (Meaning she won't tell my homophobic dad)
Me: "Thanks."
Mom: "But, you know, this... preference is going to make your life a lot more difficult. I don't want to see you getting hurt."
Me: "I know, mom."

Tada, the end, we went on to discuss polar coordinates. I love living in a family of math geeks. It feels so much better to have told her, it really does. Eventually I'll tackle dad, but not until I really, really have to.


will's picture

"polar coordinates" LMAO!

This sounds really familiar: "But, you know, this... preference is going to make your life a lot more difficult. I don't want to see you getting hurt." My mom practically said the same thing, except in Chinese. LOL I guess culture don't really matter when it comes to this. Congrats on coming out! *thumbs up*

Nothing is good or bad, but thinking makes it so.

tenmilestilts's picture

haha, same with me..."at

haha, same with me..."at your age..." and "...make life difficult"
but high five on the successful coming out!
i know for me it felt almost anticlimactic cuz of all these dramatic crazy comings-out i've read about. but my mom seems to be accepting it now.
Two wrongs don't make a right but three lefts do!

stardust's picture


Good for you. I can't imagine telling my parents something as big as this. You are brave, really. So really, good for you, and I hope it works out with your dad.

cantbreathe's picture

I still can't really believe

I still can't really believe I actually did it... Thanks so much, guys, it the supportive people here that gave me the courage :)

TotalGeek42's picture

Heyy, that's awesome. Good

Heyy, that's awesome. Good for you. ^^

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"Well I've got a banana, and in a pinch you could put up some shelves..."

5thstory's picture

Kudos! Your mum looks like a

Kudos! Your mum looks like a great person.

" . . . The sun does not shine upon this fair earth to meet frowning eyes, depend upon it." Charles Dickens

cantbreathe's picture

She is, I'm really lucky to

She is, I'm really lucky to have her.

lamb_da's picture


awesome! *huggles*

the world should be a box of lucky charms. gays and christians stuck together on a hot summer's day :)

carmen143's picture

Good job!

<3 FLAME ON! <3