What does Oasis mean to you?

the ghost's picture

I think I have come over all sentimental lately, but I have been thinking a lot lately about what Oasis means to me and what role it has in my life, and I was just curious to see what you guys feel it means to you?

carmen143's picture

Its the only place that I

Its the only place that I can be myself. And I can also talk to people who are like me or going through the sameish stuff as I am.
I don't have any gay friends so thanks for being there for me everybody!!!

<3 FLAME ON! <3

jacjessen90's picture

you iz welcome!

and what it means to me is friend ship...
"look at him! i would die for him! i would kill for him! either way, what bliss!" ~gomez addams

Icarus's picture

it's a virtual oasis for me.

it's a virtual oasis for me. there's pretty much nowhere else where i can say exactly what i'm feeling and what i'm thinking without worrying about questions or something like that.

so for those of you falling in love
keep it kind, keep it good, keep it right
throw yourself in the midst of danger
and keep one eye open at night.
--"Elephants" Rachel Yamagata

newt's picture

It's the only place where I

It's the only place where I can be who I am without intimidation.
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Two wrongs make a right...winger.

lamb_da's picture

d'aw :')

hearing all you peeps say that is so....cute? lol
yerp...this is what people have said it is...an addiction...
it's hard to get by without seeing you peeps(i'm refrainind from using "guys")
and all your problems...I LOVE YOU PEOPLE!
*giant huggles for all*

the world should be a box of lucky charms. gays and christians stuck together on a hot summer's day :)

tenmilestilts's picture

oasis truly is my oasis.

oasis truly is my oasis. i'm more honest here than anywhere (or with anyone) else. i feel like i belong here, like i fit in without having to try. i'm glad that i'm able to get comfortable with my identity from the safety of the internet (ironic i know). i don't think i would be as far as i am mentally if it was just me braving the real world. (eg, i got a rainbow anklet in new york XD) as it is, i shall be joining the GSA this coming year and i plan to be out to them as soon as i can. until then, it's nice having a place where i have no need to censor myself.
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Two wrongs don't make a right but three lefts do!

jeff's picture

heh...

A nice thread to see upon my return from Thailand... ;-)

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"People who are happy are slugs... They do not move the human race forward."
-- Camille Paglia, on Oasis

newt's picture

How'd you end up

How'd you end up there?
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Two wrongs make a right...winger.

jeff's picture

Umm...

eBay ended my contract, so I decided a tropical island to finish a draft of my novel in 6.5 weeks would be nice.

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"People who are happy are slugs... They do not move the human race forward."
-- Camille Paglia, on Oasis

Merric's picture

Oasis

is the only place where I can curse freely.

(And also of course I share pretty much the same feelings everyone else has brought up, about not censoring and such.)

Welcome back, Jeff.

ShowMeLove's picture

Well...

I first discovered it almost 3 years ago and it's always been my place to go when I need advice or I need to vent. I don't have friends or family irl that I feel I can talk to about the stuff I post on here. Sexuality or otherwise. I've also made quite a few friends on here which I would have otherwise never have made. I also think it makes me feel like I'm apart of something, like a community. Especially when I'm actually able to give back in some way to the other people on here who have given me advice or made me feel better.

in rainbows's picture

oasis to me is....

the only place where i can speak my mind freely, everything from the extremely depressing topics to the random topics that make me seem a bit crazy. oasis is like one really big family thats very accepting and always seems to be growing. oasis is where i come to get away from my life, and be myself. i love oasis and all of my fellow oasisians :)

"he who laughs last didnt get it, but he who laughs first has the dirtiest mind."

ferrets's picture

a safe palce....

where im surrounded by my second family

love is when you think about them twice for every other thought...or is that obsession? is there a differnce beetween those two things?

Alyska's picture

^.^

Reading all this is making me teary eyed.
Oasis is where I go when I need support, or help, or even just to laugh. It's a place where I can say what I want, and be who I am, and no one tells me to shut up (or wants to I hope... ^^;;; )
Plus it's my only connection to the GBLT community...

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"When you can't walk you crawl, and when you can't do that you find someone to carry you" ~Firefly

the ghost's picture

*Thought I should post what it means to me too

I am not sure I can quite sum up what Oasis means to me, but I will try. It has been a fairly central part of my life for over three years now. I am not sure if that is a little sad to admit about a website, but then to be honest I don’t really care if it is because it is the truth.

I actually clearly remember the evening I stumbled upon this site. I was trawling through the internet searching for information on being gay, being confused about your sexuality etc. and I was linked to this site. I briefly looked through some journals and forums and decided to sign up, because I was in desperate need of help. Honestly I never expected to still be an active member over three years on, but then I also never realised how decent people that I have never met before and maybe never will, could be.

Not long after joining I posted a forum topic and left the computer to go downstairs to make some tea. When I went back to my computer I was amazed to see several responses to my post. I will never forget that feeling as I read through them. I felt so relieved, so comforted, so understood, and like I wasn’t alone. Other people in the world understood. I wasn’t some freak that was completely confused about who they were.

Soon after that first forum post I became a regular poster. Writing about my highs and low’s, my confusion, my life, and of course chatting to other members. It was through all this that I started to gain some confidence in myself.

This site has made me realise that I am normal, so many people go through so many of the same things I have. This site has given me advice, confidence, friends and pride in who I am. I honestly think Jeff is one of the wisest, honest most straightforward people I have ever met and I will always be eternally grateful to him for this site and the advice he has posted to me and others over the years. I firmly believe without Oasis my life would have been a much more dismal place these last few years. So thank you to everyone that makes this place what it is.

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent-Eleanor Roosevelt

tenmilestilts's picture

That's how it was for me as

That's how it was for me as well--finding Oasis, I mean. I was feeling so lost and helpless, I only wanted someone to spill to, and lucky me, I found a website full of wonderful supportive people who understand what I'm going through!
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Two wrongs don't make a right but three lefts do!

Alyska's picture

I remember doing the same thing.

I just kinda tripped into this site... there was a link on one of the sites that I was looking at, that was a link from another site. This site was pretty much the end of a long line of link clicking. I remember that there was about a week where I didn't sign up, and just read what was being written, and in the end, I felt like I needed to be a part of this online family.
It's funny, but I've only been on this site for a little while, compared to some on here, but I feel like it's been years...

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"When you can't walk you crawl, and when you can't do that you find someone to carry you" ~Firefly

Human101's picture

Oh-asis,

you are my journal. I like writing on your site, it helps clear my head when I feel like there's riots in the streets. I like the people on your site, their nice as well. Sometimes I feel like your the only thing I can express myself to. I tell you things I can't even tell myself sometimes. Plus, writing to you while under the influence gives me good memories. Actually, I write about a lot of my good memories, sentimental moments, and things I love (loved). If my brain ever decides to forget about my memories your the one thing that will recap my fun. Your the one thing that holds my past, my goals, and my now. I love you.

Yours truly,
Elle =]

Icarus's picture

2nd post, but I love it that much!

I think I'll take this post seriously.

I have been on this site for 4 years and 7 weeks. I have seen members come and go, and I have seen members stay. Without a shred of doubt, I can honestly say I have no idea who I would be without this site. I have become more confident in myself, I have learned so much about other people and myself. Even with a few bumps along the way, there is nowhere else on earth that I get the support and love that I get here. I can say what I want, how I want it, as random as I want it, and as raunchy as I want it without fear of criticism (aside from a few jabs from jeff) or cruelty.

You guys were here for me through thick and thin, and though the names may have changed, the love, and kindess, and understanding is the same. I thought I could live without this site, but I just can't.

so for those of you falling in love
keep it kind, keep it good, keep it right
throw yourself in the midst of danger
and keep one eye open at night.
--"Elephants" Rachel Yamagata

lamb_da's picture

second post!

i stumbled upon this site and was all like. "hey! this is cool!"
and so here i am!

the world should be a box of lucky charms. gays and christians stuck together on a hot summer's day :)

crazypickle's picture

Oasis is...my oasis. When I

Oasis is...my oasis. When I need someone to talk to, or someone who understands what I'm going through, I can come here, and you guys help me through it. I'm really appreciative to have you guys around helping me. And thanks to Jeff for creating the site.

Merric's picture

I didn't take this that

I didn't take this that seriously the first time around, so for reals this time.

I discovered Oasis around the beginning of my junior year in high school through a link on Julie Anne Peters' website. At that time I felt so completely lost and alone. I found myself reading the journals on Oasis more and more throughout the year. It helped me feel connected to a community, one I had never chosen but was part of nonetheless. (Because as we all know, none of us choose to be gay, we ARE CHOSEN.) I finally started an account at the end of my junior year and I was able to express myself here like I couldn't express myself anywhere else (not just because my real-world friends would be horribly shocked if I ever let out the word "fuck.") You all know parts of me that no one else does.
I think in some ways I've loosened up a lot since the beginning. At first it was hard for me to talk about liking girls even here where it was expected. I'd been so repressed, so used to thinking of myself as an empty sexless being.
Now, I can accept myself (mostly) and I'm grateful for that.

j_man34's picture

Begining

Though I'm not that active here, Oasis is one of the most important websites to me. Back when I was just figuring myself out (like 5 years ago) this was one of the first sites I found. I fell in love with it because it was inviting and positive which is something many queer sites don't offer. And when I'm feeling really disconnected from the world and myself I log in in order to find some solace.

Really means a lot to me you guys!

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