college recruiting

runningupthefreeway's picture

So I'm at the point where I'm starting to be recruited by colleges for my sports. It's really cool, and usually the last thing on my mind is being gay, but once in a while it pops up in my mind and I'm like "holy shit how do I deal with this". I haven't come out in my high school, let alone strange random recruiters, but it is very important for me that it will be o.k for me to be openly gay on a team. The last thing I want is to go to a college and then find out my coach is some homophobe. But how do you find that out " Oh hey, also, I'm gay, are you cool with that?" Isn't the most subtle, especially because I'm not out to other people already. So how do I figure this out without alienating potential coaches?


kuu2's picture


well it is important for u to be comfortable wherever u attend. so id say, tell them up front in a way that shows u r comfortable with who u r.

Life is easily complicated.

Alyska's picture


If you just wanted to see their views on it, you could ask them what they thought about homosexuality, which would be a little less awkward than just saying "Hey, I'm gay. Is that okay with you?" I mean they still might see that you are, but they also might think that you're just a straight-ally.
But I agree with Kuu. You need to be comfortable with where you'd be, so whatever way you find is best to bring it up, use that.

"When you can't walk you crawl, and when you can't do that you find someone to carry you" ~Firefly