So I'm at the point where I'm starting to be recruited by colleges for my sports. It's really cool, and usually the last thing on my mind is being gay, but once in a while it pops up in my mind and I'm like "holy shit how do I deal with this". I haven't come out in my high school, let alone strange random recruiters, but it is very important for me that it will be o.k for me to be openly gay on a team. The last thing I want is to go to a college and then find out my coach is some homophobe. But how do you find that out " Oh hey, also, I'm gay, are you cool with that?" Isn't the most subtle, especially because I'm not out to other people already. So how do I figure this out without alienating potential coaches?