Questioning My Gender Identity.... Help?

stupid enough's picture

Hello all. My name is... well... it's Claire, but I've been going by Tom ever since I've gotten to college.Anyway...

Recently I've been questioning my gender more and more. It's gotten to the point where it's practically all I can think about. I was born female, however there are parts of me that...I dunno.. just feel male. I don't know how to explain it. When I was little I just wanted to be a boy. There was something about the way boys looked, and what they were. These feelings would come and go, I think. I don't know. I remember so little of my childhood. But don't most trans people know from the very beginning? Isn't that the most common experience? I'm just so confused. I don't know what information is relevant to this subject. I was hoping there'd be someone else out there who knows what's this like.


TotalGeek42's picture

So... I don't think most

So... I don't think most trans people necessarily know right from the beginning... I mean, a lot of them sort of do, like how you described, but then forget about it when they feel like they should start fitting in more or being more normal. Usually it's not until they learn what transgendered means that they realize that they want to be the other gender.

And even then, there a lot of us that have mental struggles. I know I did... heck, I still do sometimes. It's getting less and less frequent, but I still have those "What if this isn't actually right?" moments. From what you've said, though.. I mean, if it feels right to you, then go for it. Don't worry as much about the experiences that other people have had; worry about your own.

PM me if you wanna talk. ^^

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Tophat's picture

Hello, Tom. I do not

Hello, Tom.

I do not consider myself to be male or female, but I didn't really know that from the very start. How could I? I didn't know what my feelings were.

Darling, I think that whatever you believe is your gender is your gender, and if it ever changes that's the way it'll be.

I hope that's good enough for you.

Happiness is ideal, it is the work of the imagination.

-The Marquis de Sade