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ElvenKnight's picture

The Guster concert was great, it was the first time I’ve seen them since their show @ the Prospect Park bandshell a few summers ago.

I’ve been thinking about what that troll Anthony said to me before he mercifully told me to get lost.

“You’re not ready, kid”

Not ready? I’m not ready to pursue a gay relationship, because I won’t rent my dick to a “forty-five” year old scuzzbag?

Some people make me sick

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jeff's picture

hehe...

Could be some truth here...

If you go to the wrong club, go on an extended bar crawl with the wrong guy, think his interest in you (which you somewhat initiate and stoke by staying with him all night) is wrong, and then think the only problem in this equation is the troll/scuzzbag, then yeah, you're not ready for some aspects of this.

Bars aren't adversarial. Everyone is there to meet people and have a good time. So, if you make it a scene where you're the pure, noble person, and everyone is there to take advantage of you... that is the wrong energy and, ironically, what will seem to happen if you think that.

I'd also say you might not be ready because you went to a bar a few days ago, met a guy you didn't like and didn't sleep with... and you're still talking about and examining it days later.

The bar scene demands a certain degree of being able to appreciate the night you had, be it good, bad, crazy, or calm, and then just go out and have another, either looking for more of the same, or making sure to not have a repeat.

The main bar I go to, I still think there may be people there who have the mistaken impression that I prey on the youngest, drunkest, barely-can-walk people in the club and try to take them home. And they have a good mistaken reason to think that. But I don't let it bother me or dwell on it... although I do stay away from the people who gave me nods of approval when they thought they found a peer, yuck, heh.

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"People who are happy are slugs... They do not move the human race forward."
-- Camille Paglia, on Oasis

ElvenKnight's picture

Umm.

dude, the first time i met this guy it was a little bit different( See my entry "The First Time I Went To A Gay Bar" for reference) The first time around I made it clear that I thought of him as a "tour guide" and nothing more... He still tried, but he wasnt a total creep then....

Your right, I never shouldve went along with him this time.... i only went because i figured i'd get another tour out of it...

But yea he had a one track mind and he soured towards me once I finally got it through to him that " I:M NOT INTO YOU, OLD MAN!"

jeff's picture

hehehe...

I still think you're sending him mixed messages. If someone's into you, you can't just wave a wand and say "Nope, you're my tour guide." Not to mention it's rude to hang out with guy who's into you and lead them on (and hanging out with someone you barely know and aren't into is enough to be called leading them on)

Plus, who even wants an old man's tour of NYC clubs? He'll likely avoid every place you'd want to go and possibly steer you to places where he'll seem like your best option, heh. With Google, or reading blogs of a clubbing guy you think is hot, you should be able to find interesting places.

I do think everyone needs to be cautious about being ageist, since time goes quicker than you think. Not that you have to sleep with people you aren't into, but everyone is an old man to someone. Hell, you're already be a troll for some people on this site. Tick tock... ;-)

When I walk around the Castro, I actually make eye contact and smile at older guys, specifically for that reason. They all smile back. Smile at younger guys.. paranoia. Number of older guys who perceive it as a sexual and not merely a friendly gesture: none. Number of younger guys: Maybe 60 percent. And I do it to guys older and younger that I'd clearly not to be into. Just a habit now, although the reception continues to amuse, especially when it's a younger guy who quickly looks away that I'm not remotely into, hehe.

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"People who are happy are slugs... They do not move the human race forward."
-- Camille Paglia, on Oasis

ElvenKnight's picture

why should i have to be redundant?

i can see now that i was being naive, but still if I tell a guy " i don't have daddy issues" once, why should i have to say it SIX times?

jeff's picture

The question...

is why you were there to hear it the last four times.

You're in NYC. It's not like he was your ride home 20 miles away from where you live to visit the only gay bar.

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"People who are happy are slugs... They do not move the human race forward."
-- Camille Paglia, on Oasis