13 and depressed

littlejack's picture

ok my name is jack i am 13 and need some help please here is my story i realised i was gay when i was 8(ish) i just left it as i didnt really understand it-i kept it bottled up-stupid me-ive been reading some coming out stories good and bad ones-i also have another problem my brother is gay and when he told my parents(not religous)from what i understand(he dont like talking about it to me)my parents were very angry... so i dont know what to do now(i love my brother but i cant talk to him about it)should i?

carmen143's picture

If your brother is gay....

He would be the ideal person to talk to.

He went through the same thing (or at least something similar).

Find the courage to speak up. :) It'll pay off in the end.

Good luck! Oh and welcome to Oasis. :)

<3 FLAME ON! <3

fox333's picture

I don't have any advice but

I don't have any advice but Welcome! *Hugs* and *Rainbows* if you need someone to just listen Im here.

I am so clever that sometimes I don't understand a single word of what I am saying.
Oscar Wilde

Tophat's picture

Well, my love...

I would say that your brother is the ideal advisor if he is gay, so you should probably tell him.

I know quite a bit about how you feel, so if you need any further advice please come to me.

It is true that liberty is precious; so precious that it must be carefully rationed.
-Vladimir Ilyich Lenin

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swimmerguy's picture

You need to start small.

The very first thing you need to do is come out to yourself. Make sure you know and accept that you are gay.
Then, you need to start small in telling other people. I suggest your brother, but if you absolutely can't, I suggest a lady friend. The girls often take it better.
Confidence will come with the more times you come out, then you can branch out to other things.

If you're going through hell, keep going. ~Winston Churchill

littlejack's picture

Thanks

Thanks for being so kind although i dont have many friends and really i cant talk to my brother because he is away and i feel ready to tell someone but i cant and thats killing me

littlejack's picture

Will this work?

let them catch me on this website? oh and i accept that i am gay i have thought about it properly

Tophat's picture

You could let them catch you...

But I find it best to tell them personally.

It is true that liberty is precious; so precious that it must be carefully rationed.
-Vladimir Ilyich Lenin

swimmerguy's picture

Yeah.

I suggest you tell them personally. But please. Take it slow, and tell them only when ready and willing to so.

If you're going through hell, keep going. ~Winston Churchill

littlejack's picture

ok

Thanks i will take it slow thanks for helping, i think ill tell my mom (when im ready) while shes taking me to school then she'll have the whole day to "think it over" or i'll act really gay till she notices then i'll tell her. Thanks Everyone! oh and i almost told my dad yesterday because we had a "bonding day" and he said if there was anything i wanted to say then i could say it, i really was going to as he was more supportive of my brother than my mum, then... work called aaaaagh! he had to go up there!

elph's picture

Welcome to Oasis...

...I know you'll like it here. There are more than just a few here in your age group (sorry, I don't qualify :-().

Btw, I really love your avatar!

littlejack's picture

:)

thanks and could you tell me who is my "age group"? id love to chat

Tophat's picture

Well,

I am, Swimmerguy is, Dracofang, a lot of people. Ferrets (My boy) is as well.

It is true that liberty is precious; so precious that it must be carefully rationed.
-Vladimir Ilyich Lenin

swimmerguy's picture

The swimmerguy is NOT CAPITALIZED excuse meeee... :D

I'd love to chat too. You can PM me and let me know if you want to chat elsewhere :D

"I bust mine so I can kick yours" ~ design on a swimming t-shirt

oldfoxbob's picture

Welome and advise.

First off WELCOME to Oasis! Enjoy the stay, the visit, the friends you will make, the advise, the companionship, the fun, the laughter, the tears, the fellowship, the ....well you get it...Welcome aboard.
Now advise on parents and coming out to them.
You say your brother is Gay and has already come out to the rents. He is the ideal person to talk to. You failed to say how old he is and if he still lives at home with you and the rents. I assume that he does here so you can see the day to day response that the parents have had with him since he came out to them. Still...he is the best person to talk to. He can tell you things you didn't know about how Mom and Dad handled the situation with him. How things were said that you didn't know about. Your brother can also teach you about the community and gay events, going on's, and yes even teach you about sex....I mean talk not action here...(even if they do say Incest is best and put your brother to the test...LOL) ! Go to him some day when your parents are both out of the house and talk to him....approach it openly and honestly, as well as up front and totally. He will in turn be the same for you. He is your brother and loves you as a brother. Good luck and Blessed be.

Genius is not a sign of intelligence, but rather
that of common sense. Humor is the best pain pill.

littlejack's picture

Re:oldfoxbob

my brother is 17 and still lives at home, kinda he lives in this outside placey type thing but i cant talk to him now as he is in hospital and please be gentle im very sensitive and little stuff makes me cry

Tophat's picture

Darling,

We tend to be very gentle, possibly with the exception of Jeff and I. We're insensitive in two very different ways. But I shall do my best to be as kind as I can be, I wouldn't want to make you cry.

What is he in the hospital for?

It is true that liberty is precious; so precious that it must be carefully rationed.
-Vladimir Ilyich Lenin

littlejack's picture

Sorry

i wasnt accusing people of being mean i was just saying and i dont Really know why hes in hospital just that it was serious and he wont be here at christmas :( :( :(

Tophat's picture

Um...

I didn't think you were accusing anyone of anything, love. ^^ I was just letting you know.

That's not good. Send him hugs from me, kay?

It is true that liberty is precious; so precious that it must be carefully rationed.
-Vladimir Ilyich Lenin

littlejack's picture

Re:Tophat

okay i feel better talking to peopke about this then laying down angry and about to lash out at ppl for saying hi

oldfoxbob's picture

Ok then

Brother is in the Hospital? Why have you not asked your parents why he is in the hospital and what the prognosis is for his recovery? Its a normal question to ask in this situation here. If however they don't tell you then i would insist if I were you. Your old enough to handle any thing coming your way should it be serious. Just remember that regardless of the reason he is there, your parents want to protect you from things since they love you.
Its a normal reaction if they don't want to tell you as they don't want you to worry. Keep a stiff upper lip as they say and ask them. Once you find out insist upon seeing him after all he is your brother. When he comes home from the hospital you can volunteer to help take care of him since he will still be recovering from the illness or what ever. Then you will have time to be alone with him and can ask him then about coming out to the parents. Regardless I wish you brother a speedy recovery and best wishes also. May you Christmas be happy this year. Regards: OFB

Genius is not a sign of intelligence, but rather
that of common sense. Humor is the best pain pill.