To get a date

dude.im.a.gaf's picture

How do you guys get up the nerve to ask someone out on a date? I am such a wimp, but do you guys have any helpful tips? i know i'm pathetic but hey i'm going crazy on my end, kinda lonely. :( you guys help, but i want someone to be with.

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Dracofangxxx's picture

Well... you plan it out for

Well... you plan it out for days and days and days, and then you walk up when you finally get the balls to do it and it comes out completely different than you planned. Because you're nervous as fuck. And then the person says yes or no or "I'll think about it"

That's generally it. The worst that can happen is they say no, really, and then everything's just the same as before. So you have nothing to lose. Just be calm about it, and remember it's not such a big deal. It really isn't. Practice doing it to another friend, and that way you'll feel better about saying it to someone's face... and then when you say it to the actual person, just pretend they're your friend. Yep.

Ehhh that's all I got. Sorry.
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Sometimes I like to sit at night and stare at the lamppost because it's the brightest thing in my life...

dude.im.a.gaf's picture

thanks

you don't have to say sorry, i guess your pretty much right, then again i wouldn't know, i might just try it tho, even tho i'm scared as fuck, but hopefully if i do try it goes over good. lol btw love the lamppost thing, boy i can relate to that. Well thanks again! :)

Dracofangxxx's picture

haha don't worry, I'm

haha don't worry, I'm positive you'll do good! :D and yeah, the lamppost thing is pretty true most of the time :C

really, no problem! it's my pleasure! I love helping people!
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Sometimes I like to sit at night and stare at the lamppost because it's the brightest thing in my life...

dude.im.a.gaf's picture

Love and lampposts

don't worry about lampposts to much. that little bit of light they give off is enough to bighten up the darkest night, just like a little bit of love goes along way. One day every light will be on you and you won't have to look at the lamppost, because you'll be the light house, helping people fing their way through life.

Dracofangxxx's picture

awww...that's so sweet! I'm

awww...that's so sweet! I'm sure whoever you ask out will be very excited X3 you're very awesome :D and you're right :) love kinda goes the distance, eh? not because it has to, either, but because it wants to haha

I dunno what I just said >_>;;

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Sometimes I like to sit at night and stare at the lamppost because it's the brightest thing in my life...

jeff's picture

Err...

First off, what is a gaf?

Beyond that, I always went by the notion that asking someone out is pretty easy, since the response is rarely something they have to think about. If they already know you and that you're gay, etc., then in the back of their head, it's already sorted out. Just like if someone asked you, "would you be interested in..." insert any name, in most circumstances, you would say yes or no.

So, when you ask someone out, you aren't really giving them some major decision to contend with, you are just getting an answer that is already a known quantity, just not to you.

That thinking has reduced my stress over the whole ordeal. Plus, the more you can reduce the time between wanting to ask someone out and doing it, you also spend less time building up expectations, hopes, and dreams where none may end up growing.

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"People who are happy are slugs... They do not move the human race forward."
-- Camille Paglia, on Oasis

dude.im.a.gaf's picture

gaf

gaf is fag backwards. and the reason i asked about asking people out is because in not out, because i don't trust easily (trust issues). i think that about sums it up.

ferrets's picture

well sah...

you see when asking somome out, i figure theres a worst case scenerio and a best case

worst cse:they say know and its ackward till one of you tells a hilarious joke(hofully bout windex, and the ghost that lives in it 'FEAR FOR I AM WINDEXTER!) sorry got carried away there ;)

best case: he says yes, you guys fall in love, get married, move to a little quant house in victoria, canada, and adopt two children, one named tane (then one with blond hair) and one named william (the one with brown hair.)

experince the awe and mystery that reaches from the deepest inner mind to the outer limits!

dude.im.a.gaf's picture

nice

sounds nice and awesome!
btw you got some imaginaton! lmao, cause life don't happen like that, to bad tho. lol