what is making love?

ferrets's picture

is making love? is it sex? is it just snuggling? is whispering sweet notings? is it that gentle kiss right before you leave your someone? whats your definition of making love?

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jeff's picture

Basically...

I think making love is sex within a good relationship. Takes a while to get there. You can crush on someone, date them, spend time with them, but I still think it takes a while until the sex becomes more than two people enjoying each other and instead evolves into a synergistic thing, where ego is removed, and you are each focused solely on the other's pleasure. It's also fragile, and requires work, because getting there isn't a destination, but a constant struggle to stay in that place.

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"Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are." - Kurt Cobain

elph's picture

Wow! So True... And So Succinct

I'm tempted to elaborate... but this statement is perfect as it stands!

I fully realize that we all experience moments where we just can't quit. But pause, and think... evaluate where you are; then proceed... cautiously. The reward is yours to cherish.

swimmerguy's picture

I think...

It's generally construed to mean having sex, although you don't have to see it that way.
Gay technically means happy, and you could use it that way, even though nobody else does.
What YOUR definition of it is is the only one that should be important to you.

"Words are useless, especially sentences. They don't stand for anything. How can they explain how I feel?"~Madonna, Bedtime Story

patnelsonchilds's picture

True, Swimmer, but on the

True, Swimmer, but on the other hand, one really does need a common frame of reference for lovemaking, particularly with the person with whom one plans to make said love. If I'm defining lovemaking like Jeff is (in a rare moment of agreement), and I start dating someone who defines it as sticking their dick in a pencil sharpener, our relationship is going to be problematic at best.

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Wolfcry's picture

Love is love, sex is sex. I

Love is love, sex is sex. I generaly don't get the two mixed up, but for the right guy they might get interwoven.

"Please hear what I'm not saying. Don't be fooled by the face I wear, for I wear a mask. I tell you everything thats really nothing, and nothing of whats everything, of whats crying within me." - Mask

elph's picture

When you're thinking of sex...

...alone or with someone else... what is your mind concentrating on? Is it not your desire that your partner (imaginary or real) share in the slow, consciously prolonged, but inexorably approaching moment?

Isn't sex always intertwined with love?

Wolfcry's picture

. . . I have a bit of a

. . . I have a bit of a differing perspective here than most. All of you should google Polyamory.

"Please hear what I'm not saying. Don't be fooled by the face I wear, for I wear a mask. I tell you everything thats really nothing, and nothing of whats everything, of whats crying within me." - Mask

cheese's picture

i did that like four days ago lol

but yeah anyway, i dont believe in polyamory. no offense wolfcry, it just doesnt seem right, at least i think so.

"chhhhhikinnnn stewwww. i have no idea what is wrong with me O_O im sorry if i offend....not really."

Wolfcry's picture

Well its part of who i am,

Well its part of who i am, but I feel certain if the right boy(hint to who I like. AND I AM NOT A PEDO! NO ONE UNDER 14) came along I would change.

"Please hear what I'm not saying. Don't be fooled by the face I wear, for I wear a mask. I tell you everything thats really nothing, and nothing of whats everything, of whats crying within me." - Mask

AlwaysFallingDeeper's picture

hmm...

I think I agree with elph but everyone here has a good point of view. I'm just gonna leave it at that...

“Love's not a competition but I'm winning"

cheese's picture

*thinking face*

well, i think it goes under sex. but not just like ordinary, casual sex. sex is just sex. making love is sex and so much more. it involves strong feelings for the other person, it's sweet, it's you and the other person becoming one (hehe this is a different side of me lol) and sharing that amazing feeling, and you cant just have it with anyone. i agree with what both jeff and elph said. it takes awhile for two people to reach the point of making love.

"chhhhhikinnnn stewwww. i have no idea what is wrong with me O_O im sorry if i offend....not really."