So, um, I'm abroad in India this year, having decided I'd like to see the world despite maybe not all of my identity fitting in with a traditional Indian mindset. And, well, I'm glad I've gone abroad to a place so different from my own culture, but it's hard because I'm closeted here (living in a small, traditional city in Banaras), at least to the Indians surrounding me, and the more I try to be a Good Hindustani Girl the more conflict I feel inside me, because there is a recent part of me that wasn't expecting to marry an Indian man, pop out babies, and make chapati for the rest of my life. Sure, I am going back home in three months, and my family luckily accepts me in whatever permutations of identity I have, and I'm not even ethnically Indian, but it has been challenging for me nonetheless. I imagine those who live here longer or who have grown up here experience this more intensely than I, and those who live in other very gender-roled, heteronormative cultures feel this too. Want to talk? Here's the place.