I don't want to be a bridesmaid

ShowMeLove's picture

Finally sent that message to my sister yesterday. I ended it with an "But I don't know" after saying the bachelorette plans sounded fantastic.

Now she comes back with saying I can't wear closed shoes. Why The Fuck Not? Because she wants all the bridesmaids to wear the same ones. Oh, well, geez, thanks for telling me that EARLIER. I DON'T FUCKING WANT TO WEAR OPEN SHOES. I also don't want to pay for a pedicure on top of the manicure. I don't even want to get the manicure! Do you not understand that I don't have money to throw around like you do? That $59 + tax for that water ride would help pay for my dogs insanely overpriced shots that I need to get her this summer so I can start taking her to the dog park. I'm NOT spending that much on a freaking ride!

About the "I don't know" that I left at the end, she said that I'm coming. Wanna bet. I'm kinda pissed now. I'm already stressing about the costs for the actual wedding, but even more so, I'm stressing out because I don't know what we're going to do about our dogs while we're away for the wedding. I'm going to leave that for another journal. I'll probably need to get it all out tonight.


loreonpravus's picture

can't you get your sister or

can't you get your sister or someone else to pay the costs of wedding stuff? I thought the hosts usually took care of everything.

ShowMeLove's picture


The bridesmaids and the Maid of Honor all have to pay for their stuff in this wedding. She's not getting any help from our parents because they most certainly can't afford it, so I guess she and her soon-to-be-husband can't afford to also pay for the stuff for us. Or just don't want to, I don't really know.

My other sister surprised me and payed for my $200 dress. I wasn't even expecting it that day, I was prepared to pay for it even though I didn't want to. So, I don't know that she'll go and pay for all my other stuff. In a way, I don't really want her to because then I'd just feel like a major burden. I'm sure they all look down on me and see all this as my fault because I should have job by now.

stardust's picture


really sucks. I'm sorry. Weddings can be stressful enough without the bride getting a little blind when it comes to money. My older sister got married last September, so I know it gets expensive.

Maybe a friend or neighbor can take care of your dogs while your gone? As a favor or for cheap? Or maybe with the understanding that you'll look after their pets sometime when they're out of town?

I hope things work out. I feel for you. Money is so...obstructing. Like a hardly movable wall that just won't fall down, it makes you drag it along. Ughh I'm so sick of money. Everybody's having money issues so much lately. I don't have a job either, like you, though not for lack of trying.

Well good luck. I'll send you good psychic karma.

ShowMeLove's picture

Thanks for the good karma :)

We were thinking about doing that, trying to get somebody to watch our dogs while we're gone. But we don't really know anyone who'd be able to do it.

My biggest issue is that I don't really trust anyone to take care of them. I'd be stressed out that the person watching them would let them out by accident and they'd run away because we're not there. That's my biggest issue. We're going be gone two days, so it's really stressing me out. I'd rather just take them with us, but I don't know if that's going to be a viable option.

I'm also sick of the money! Or costs more like it.