Should I tell my crush that I'm gay and that I'm in love with her?

Moon1028's picture

I have a male soul in a female body, and my soul, mind, and thoughts being male I like girls, so that makes me gay. Recently, I developed a crush on this girl in my school, and since school is ending soon :( I won't be able to contact her or see her anymore. We're friends but not extremely close friends. I'm debating whether I should ask for her number and spend some time with her over the summer, and finally tell her about myself? Would that be the best idea? I'm only out to one of my friends. I feel like telling her would be good, so she knows who I am but it won't matter in our relationship most likely, because I'm positive that she's straight and she doesn't like me.

ShowMeLove's picture

Personally...

I'd ask for her email address or Facebook (if you have it). Or, yeah, a phone number. Just tell her you want to keep in touch and maybe tell her you'd like to get together sometime in the summer.

Then later on in the summer over the phone or through the Internet, you could easily just ask her out casually. Once you feel comfortable enough you could tell her how you feel.

Good luck! :) And I don't think I've seen you on here before so welcome to Oasis!

Moon1028's picture

Yeah, I'm new to Oasis, I

Yeah, I'm new to Oasis, I just joined about a month ago, in fact I'm not even sure if its been a month, lol. Thank you though, and thanks so much for your help. I got her phone number indirectly, from a friend. I texted her, but she hasn't responded, probably because she's at Yellowstone right now. If she responds I think I might ask her to hang out sometime, I'm just incredibly nervous about it.

tenmilestilts's picture

hm, well this doesn't answer

hm, well this doesn't answer your question but if you're a guy in a girl's body that makes you trans...

but anywho, i think if you want to come out to her that's a good plan. come out first, see how she takes it, then try to hang out with her over the summer.

and back to the first thing i said...if you are trans then her being straight wouldn't matter (as long as she's open-minded), cuz you're a guy.
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Moon1028's picture

Thanks for your help. And

Thanks for your help. And thank you, I never really knew what to call myself, now I actually have a label XD. I think she's pretty open-minded, I doubt she likes me anyway, though. How do you think I should go about coming out to her?

tenmilestilts's picture

you're welcome =)

well, ultimately it's your decision. but what i'd do is kinda talk to her first, try to bring up LGBTQ stuff and see what kind of reaction you get from her. if she sounds like she's cool with it, just...tell her. i've come out to a ton of people and i never know the right way to go about it. even when i'm not nervous, it still comes out sounding awkward. but maybe you could give her a book with a trans character (luna by julie anne peters comes to mind) and then ask her what she thinks and then tell her.
(oh and welcome to oasis btw!! =D as a new member you get *hugz* and *rainbows* and awesome stuff like that. ^^)
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Two wrongs don't make a right but three lefts do!

Moon1028's picture

That sounds like a great

That sounds like a great idea. Thanks so much again for all your help. I'll have to read that book, it sounds great. Thanks, so much. Yay hugs and rainbows! XD