How to be out?

ladyfingers's picture

So, although i am gay, been in a relationship for 2 years and everyone knows. I can not for the life of me find the courage to tell strangers or new friends or even talk about it with people who know...

Any tips on how i can be more confident and more relaxed and be open about my sexuality?

jeff's picture

No clue...

The issue isn't how, but why.

Why don't you feel comfortable mentioning it?

I mean, how to be out is easy. Just say whatever you want without censoring yourself. Just like being vegan easy, don't eat animal products and you're done.

So, the issue always comes down to why you are deciding to not be out, and resolving that. How to be out is a natural thing once you resolve that.

I just started a new job, so I'm surrounded by new co-workers, and some have asked if I have a girlfriend. I say, I'm gay, but no, I don't have a boyfriend. But it isn't like I debate whether to say things, or analyze it. I'm just answering their question and adjusting for information they didn't know.

But I'm not really concerned what these people think about my being gay, so that is the hurdle.

"Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are." - Kurt Cobain

ladyfingers's picture

I dont think i have enough

I dont think i have enough self confidence. I have alot of issues with people turning on me and letting me down (not because i am gay but)

Thanks jeff...

Punkish Insanity's picture

You just gotta relax!! Stand

You just gotta relax!! Stand in front of a mirror and talk to yourself about it. Sure, you'll sound crazy, but it'll help you work up the nerve. Repitition helps make you more comfortable, like if you're uncomfortable saying "Gay" or "lesbian" as some people are, just keep saying it until it grows on you.
And, when you do work up the courage, just subtly let yourself say "boyfriend/girlfriend". People will catch on to the hint and most likely leave it alone for the time being.

~ It's a cosmic joke that I'm a lesbian, because I understand men so well but women are a complete mystery to me.