I dont know my sexuality

creative347's picture

Ok, I'm 15 years old. I've been recently pondering my sexuality. I am attracted to girls, however I have had two failed relationships that didin't last very long. Both about less than a month. This has just made me want women less. However I get attracted to men when they crossdress. I think its wrong but I cant help myself. I haven't dated in over a year and I feel lonley. I have a good group of friends but sometimes I feel alone when they are dating and im just the single one with nothing to do. I also have suddenly noticed men to be more attractive. Im just a very confused 15 year old guy and I would love for some guidance and advice on what I should do about my sexuality and if I should try dating.


ferrets's picture


if i were you, i would try some stuff with a guy you find attractive, like going on a date, hanging out, maybe kissing. if it feels good, and you like him alot, mayybe you guys could start dating.

"A loving man and woman in a committed relationship can marry. Dogs, no matter what their relationship, are not allowed to marry. How should society treat gays and lesbians in committed relationships? As dogs or as humans?"

swimmerguy's picture


I don't freak out too much about sexuality or what to call it. If I want to date someone, I'll date them, I don't care what gender they are.

But if you do want to know what you like, just try something out. Like the Ferrets said, go try it with a guy, and if you don't like it, you don't like it.
Just always be honest and accepting to yourself. Other people will lie and not accept you, you don't need to add on to the pile.

Oh, and welcome to Oasis!

No one escapes from life alive

MacAvity's picture


Welcome to Oasis!

What you're going through right now, the period of confusion and questioning, is normal and common among teenagers no matter what their orientation turns out to be. As Ferrets and Swimmerguy said, you can try experimenting - but remain mindful of your own boundaries: if something feels wrong to you, if you feel you might be going too far, stop. Or, you could simply wait until you really like someone. Your mind seems to be pretty open - keep it that way, and see where the future takes you.

elph's picture

All great advice!

But you would be advised to seriously consider MacAvity's caution: but remain mindful of your own boundaries.

Do not accede to perceived peer pressure: a feeling that friendship requires a demonstration of your sexual prowess. This can wait... possibly a long time (I'm very confident that you will survive).

Nothing in what you've written would suggest that you're destined to being either gay or straight. At your present age you'll likely find the best clues to be found in your solitary waking fantasies and in your dreams at night...

Oh! Welcome to the Oasis family! You've already met three of our stellar community.

Punkish Insanity's picture

Just go with the flow, dude.

Just go with the flow, dude. You gotta find that right person and just roll with it, you know? Don't stress about it, or get mad or upset or whatever, because that just makes you an unpleasant person. Experimenting is okay, as long as everyone involved is okay with it too.

~ It's a cosmic joke that I'm a lesbian, because I understand men so well but women are a complete mystery to me.

creative347's picture


Thank you guys so much :) This has helped me a lot!!!!!

funnyflyby's picture

Well, phoo-ey...

I missed the moment. Curse my falling-asleep-at-inconvinient-times! But... yeah... to quote MacAvity, 'Everybody else already said everything else. That's what I get for being late.'
So... welcome, good luck, and such.