So besides that... I have this friend. I've known him for years. Actually forever. He's a family member and close to my age. So anyways, the thing is, I've always thought he was bisexual. He dated quite a few girls growing up. had a long term girlfriend until recently, they were together for over 3 years. Now he has another one. So although he dated girls, I'm pretty much positive that he had something going on with the boy next door when we were kids. Back then I just knew and I was fine with it. They were best friends and I don't know, I just always knew they crossed the line of friendship. I don't recall if I ever saw them kissing, but I remember hearing them kissing one night when we were sleeping in the same room. And them fooling around on his bottom bunk when me and the other boy next door were on the top bunk. hah. And various other things. My memories are kinda fading but I remember knowing back then that they were "together"
So you kinda think...well, that could've just been a one-time thing, you know, experimentation. Because I mean, back then I was kissing the boy next door's older brother...and look how I turned out! But over the years I've still gotten that vibe from him, that he likes guys too. At least, sorta.
The last thing that kinda ticked me off was when he was over last month and he was playing Fable III. All of a sudden he says to me, "So you can really be gay in this game?" Like, who says that right out of the blue? Seriously?? And I don't recall ever mentioning that you could be gay in that game. And also, you could be gay in the ones before and he's played them too. so.... what the hell? What a random question.
Then in the same night, he says out of the blue, "I told ____ [his guy friend who came with him when they visited the last time] if he was sleeping down here with me, he had to sleep over there, not right beside me. And then I wake up and he's right next to me! (I can't remember exactly what he said now, but that was the gist of it. Although, I remember it sounding more paranoid than that.)
Why are you mentioning this?!?!?!
Okay he was making his bed at the time, so maybe that just triggered the memory, idk. But it's always been little things like that. Like the way guys act when they're trying to prove they're totally str8 not at all g@y, that have irked me...like I don't get why he brings this stuff up when it's just me. For god sakes, guy, I've admitted to you that I romanced Leliana in Dragon Age whilst playing a girl character. THAT'S GAY. And also that I romanced the male love interest with a male character. THAT'S GAY ALSO. And I've told you I watched Brokeback Mountain. THAT'S SUPER GAY. You should know by now that I'm totes okay with gay people.
But now that I've been thinking about that night I wish I'd made the conversation go more like this:
Him: You can really be gay in this game?
Me: Yeah. Why are you gaaaaaay now? (jokingly)
Him: Pffttt...no. I was just asking.
Me: (more serious) You know, I would be okay if you were gay. Or bisexual. Or whatever.
Then he'd probably laugh and say something along the lines of: "Ash, I'm not"
And I'd say: "Yeah, but I just want you to know." And maybe jokingly add in, "You know, it would be cooler if you were." or something like that.
I wish I could broach the subject with him...just to test the waters and let him know that I would be okay with him if he were. Just in case he is. I just don't know how to. I really wish I'd brought it up last time. That was the perfect situation to. and I could say it jokingly but make him know that I'm serious too.
Anybody have any advice on how to bring this up with someone?