I couldn't be more confused right now...

radiosilence95's picture

Let me make a long story short.
I met a girl last year, when I was a freshman. We connected instantly, and we immediately became close. I told her everything. I had never had a friend like her before. It didn't take me long to realize that I was in love with her. She told me she knew about my feelings for her, and that she didn't judge me for it, and that we would always remain friends. Now, I don't know what to think about her. She promised we'd always be friends, but she's acting weird. Some days she's fine and we talk like normal. But other days she wants nothing to do with me. She goes to great lengths to avoid me and won't even look at me. If I try to talk to her, she gets all pissy. I'm really confused and hurt. She's acting so two-faced. She swore we'd always be close and that she would never abandon me. I still have feelings for her, but she said she wouldn't hold that against me. I'm at a loss here. I don't know what the hell to do anymore. I just want to know what I've done to make her act this way.


elph's picture

How we humans behave...

...toward one another can be extremely baffling.

The way we respond to a confessed affection can hardly ever be described as logical!

I know that you must feel hurt by her changed behavior towards you.

It may help, however, if you could try to imagine how you may have responded had your roles been reversed. Giving her space for the present might be the best solution.

If her mind is not a slave to homophobic dogma (such as espoused by a religion), I would think that your mutual friendship stands a very good chance of being rekindled...

loreonpravus's picture

See, this is why I'm so

See, this is why I'm so hesitant to tell my very good friend I have very strong feelings about her. If I could talk to anybody about this, it would be her, but it's about her.

Unless the person has the same feelings towards you, usually they're a little distant for a while but they come around, eventually. It's rather awkward when someone likes you and you don't like them back; I've had both crushing and crushee experience.

Like elph said, humans are anything but logical...