Just Want to Find my other.

Fleecy718's picture

I'm Kali. I'm 13. All I want is to find that one girl who is as mature as I am and will understand where I come from. Almost every adult I know says I act more mature, speak more mature, treat other more mature, and have the commonsense of somebody who is much older than I am. I have a feeling that's because my mom had breast cancer a couple years ago and I had to grow up on my own. The stupidest thing I've done was come out to my school. I don't know why I did, I was just tired of keeping it in. My problem is that out of the 5 bisexual girls in my school of 6,000, none of them are even close to my "maturity level". Don't get me wrong, I goof around and act like a child most of the time, but when it comes to the big stuff I take charge and figure out what to do. This is one of those big problems. I have issues with being alone emotionally. I take meds for my depression, and I always need someone to be with me emotionally. I've tried many things to solve this, even talked to my therapist, but nothing seems to work. I doubt I will find anybody of age on this website, but I guess I could try. But what I'm mainly asking is some hardcore advice to help me get through this hard time in my life. Thank you very much.


elph's picture

Welcome to Oasis

I am confident that you will find many kindred spirits here on Oasis.

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Uncertain's picture

i like your tagline

i like your tagline

elph's picture

Me too...

...since it has been subsequently edited to being a bit less specific!

jeff's picture


That was me.

"Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are." - Kurt Cobain

Bi the Book's picture

first i wanna say

first i wanna say welcome!

and second i wanna say that i am/was totally in your shoes. i'm 15 and for the longest time i have been told that i am really mature for my age. my reason i think is the fact that i am an only child and with both of my parents being college professors, i had to be mature. i was always at meetings and college gatherings all through my childhood. even telling people on here that i just got my permit surprises them cause the just assume that i am older.

and just to make things even more interesting, i also regret telling the majority of my school that i am bi. i go to private school so there aren't as many people in my school, but now that i told a bunch of people i am bi, i am questioning myself and i am pretty sure that i am gay. so coming out to a mass number of people probably wasn't a good idea. but it seemed like it at the time.

and in terms of finding someone, i know what you're going through. i have never had anyone, boy or girlfriend, and that definitely make for some really lonely times in my life, but now that i am questioning my sexuality again, i am actually glad that i don't have a girlfriend right now. i need time to figure out who i am and then maybe i'll be ready for a girlfriend. i'm not trying to say that you don't have a boyfriend or girlfriend because your secretly gay. i'm not saying that at all! but what i am saying is that your time will come. and i'm guessing since you don't have a boyfriend or girlfriend at the moment, you have spent some time think about what you want in someone, and when you find that person, you'll know that this is what you had been waiting for. i hope this helps some.

if you ever need company or a friend or advice or anything, feel free to PM me. i'm almost always on here.

try not to regret anything...because at one point it was exactly what you wanted

epicfailure's picture

Welcome to Oasis:) * Life

Welcome to Oasis:)

* Life spelled backwards is evil...now it all makes sense*

centerfielder08's picture

Kali, i just wanted to say

Kali, i just wanted to say that i definitely know where you're coming from in many respects. As I've grown up, I've also been told I'm way ahead of myself, maturity-wise. Sure, I've had times where I've been childish, but my parents have always been really hovering and overprotective of me in the sense that I have a hard time accepting the fact that I can't be perfect.

As I've grown up, I've been mostly a loner and I never really liked to rebel much, go to parties, drink , smoke etc. I always follow the rules and such.

And I'm also on various meds for mental health issues.

But since I have much older siblings, I started looking at colleges when I was in middle school (no, I'm not a genius), so I've always been more mature for my age. Sometimes people think thats a great thing about me, but it actually hurts a lot more than some may think. I keep myself so strictly defined by arbitrary rules I set up that I never have time to destress, to let go a little and be careless and free for even just a moment. I'm always analyzing what could go wrong next and trying to fix that that I don't really have time to live.

swimmerguy's picture


This sounds like exaclty like me. Well, except for the meds part, and much older sibling single not plural. But yes.

No one escapes from life alive

Meldiseus's picture

Yay That sounds like me

Yay That sounds like me (except for the older sibling thing).
I like having a good time it's just hard to get my brain to take a brake sometimes.

rythmn_n_rhyme_grrl's picture

HI welcome to Oasis! :)

HI welcome to Oasis! :)