What I recently realized is that in a relationship there's no point to pull extra weight because it makes it tiring--just like Newton's third law, everything has its opposite action/reaction (something like that), that's how relationships ought to be.
Not a negative / pessimistic view, but it makes no sense to pull more weight than needed.
You get more accomplished in less time and effort if you put in exactly what you're getting out of the relationship.
Which can also mean the following...
if someone doesn't talk to you, there's no use trying to harass them about it. If it happens, it happens.
I promise I'm not saying this with a cynical mind on my shoulders, but a more reasonable mind. Not saying its easy, but it makes a lot more sense to me now so I just thought I'd share it with all of you.
You only are obligated to put in as much as you're getting out of the relationship--no more and no less.