So there's a very good friend of mine I've known for years. He lives halfway across the country, but he's from my state, so I see him on breaks. We've become quite close this year, and I've had a pretty big crush on him for months. He's just such a good guy and good friend, and we have so many common interests--I finally feel ready to date someone like him, someone extraordinary, with chemistry, but at the same time a stable, good person. I'm so glad I've reached this point.
The thing is, he's going abroad across the world starting right after I graduate college. He'll be gone for the year. And then he'll be back halfway across the country, in the deep South, where I don't want to live. And moving for someone is not a good plan anyways. So there isn't a chance really to try it out, or date him, or even see him regularly (platonically or romantically) for an extended period of time. This is why I simply haven't told him how I feel--because it seems so unfeasible. But today I was on everyoneisgay.com and they were talking about the importance of telling someone how you feel, even if they're about to go far away, so that they know, and so that you don't feel terrible if they start dating someone else, and to stop cowering about it.
I suppose I'm a bit cowardly about it, but I also feel like I want to be sure of my feelings after seeing him face-to-face for a bit, instead of one or two visits every few months. And it just seems ridiculous to get involved with someone at this point in both of our lives. So should I just sit on it until HE graduates, or at least until he comes back from abroad next year? That's what I've decided. Am I throwing away an opportunity, or is this a wise choice?