Matching Affect with my Internal State

centerfielder08's picture

So I don't believe I've touched on this before, but I have a problem with matching my affect to my internal state...in English, this means that whatever I feel inside my head, I have trouble expressing with facial expressions and my behavior.

For example, I always smile, but that's what I do even if depressed. Or angry. Or sad. Its just natural for me.

I'm trying to work on getting better with that because then it causes for confusion...people thinking I'm doing and feeling great because of a wide grin that stretches across the length of my face, therapists thinking I'm exaggerating, or people underestimating/doubting what I say.

Basically, when I speak, my words don't match my face, or how my face *should* look when I say what I say. For example, I'll tell a therapist "I've been feeling really depressed," and this is accompanied by a smile. I don't do it intentionally/on purpose. Because I don't even realize I'm doing it.

Yeah, maybe that's why I seem to get the short end of the stick.

Its so hard...so so so hard for me.

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whateversexual_llama's picture

this isn't actually

this isn't actually something helpful,
but you always impress me. Your ability to identify so clearly "this is the issue I'm having" is sort of staggering.

I feel like because you're so good at that, you've taken the first step to solving just about anything.

centerfielder08's picture

Wow, you're about 100%

Wow, you're about 100% amazing. Thank you for that. One of the best compliments someone's ever given me.
you make me happy.

radiosilence95's picture

Do you think that this

Do you think that this inabilitiy to associate facial expressions/behaviors with what you're feeling inside can be changed with a bit of practice? Maybe it's just a habit that's hard to break. Perhaps you could ask your therapist about that.

elph's picture

At the real risk of offending...

Maybe "effect" would be a better choice?

Forgiven? Please...