I recently had to write an essay in English about what love is. This is probably one of the hardest essays I've ever had to write, because love is such a broad and subjective word. I could say that I "love" pizza, or that I "love" that girl's shoes...but what does it really mean to love? Each person's idea of love varies, so love is something you can't generalize. Love is the most abused word in the English language. We say it all the time, without ever really meaning it. You don't have to agree with my opinion, but this is what I think it is:
In essence, love is infinite. Not restrained by race, religion, sex, or any meaningless factor. Love is rare, even among married couples. You could be married to someone all your life without ever truly loving them. You may think you do, but you really don't. Love is often confused with infatuation and sexual desire.
Getting to the point:
Love is a contradiction. I believe that you can hate the person you love. Love is terrifying, ruthless, and painful. But it is also beautiful, comforting, and joyful. Love defies logic. You may not know why you love someone. You just do. It can be the scariest feeling in the world, but it's also wonderful. It's not about wanting to be with someone, it's about needing to be with someone. It takes patience, strength, and dedication to love, not chocolates and flowers and sappy poetry. Love is not a romance novel. The couples you see in movies like Twilight, Titanic, and Romeo and Juliet are cliched and overrated. That is not really how love works. Nothing hurts more than love, and nothing heals more than love.
There are many types of love. Familial love, friendly love, romantic love...I can honestly say that I love my cat Daisy, but that's a different kind of love. I love my friends. I love my Aunt Lori. I love Doritos. But I am not IN LOVE with them. I think there's a difference between loving someone and being in love with someone. I love my friend Victoria. I am IN LOVE with my best friend Amber.
Basically, love is not about flowers and chocolates. It is about seeing the worst and the best in one another. Love is courage. Love is honesty. Love is patience. Love is hatred. Love is acceptance. Love is anger. Love is selflessness and selfishness, forgiveness and bitterness. Love is a complex spiderweb of different emotions. It is not one emotion in itself. It is a billion different emotions, both negative and positive, rolled into a gigantic confusing ball.
People don't know how to love each other anymore. We see the fake, sappy love in movies, books, and poems, and we think that's what real love is. It's not. It's a lie. The reason that the divorce rate in America is over 60% is that people surrender the minute their love faces a challenge. They have no patience, courage, or strength. They think that the second love hits a rocky point, it's time to give up. The reason for so many broken marriages is that people think love is perfection. It's not. Love is so very far from perfect.
Love is not taking long walks on the beach. Love is holding on as your partner suffers through a nasty drug addiction. Love is not giving your partner roses. Love is holding his/her hand while he/she is breaking down and saying, "I'm here for you."
We cannot control who we fall in love with. It just happens.
That is all.