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Yamamoto's picture

Hello guys... I kind of need some help, but I want to see if anyone really cares before I say anything. I don't know how alive this place which is why I am checking before I take time to really type everything out when I finally get on to telling you guys about my problems.

Dracofangxxx's picture

Yes, we're alive :P

But this is more suited for the Journals section, where you should introduce yourself more :)
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ChrisH1551's picture

I agree with Dracofangxxx.

I agree with Dracofangxxx. This is more of a journal topic. but yes, this place is very alive, it's like a family...even though I don't know you, I care. :D

Bi the Book's picture

we care! we're all ears...or

we care! we're all ears...or eyes! :I

try not to regret anything...because at one point it was exactly what you wanted

Yamamoto's picture

:( I am sorry I couldn't

:( I am sorry I couldn't really tell the differance bettewen the two... I promise I won't the mistake again. Am I still aloud to talk in this little commeting thing and talk about my problem here or do I need to move it :(

swimmerguy's picture

Really

One of my favorite things about this site is you can do whatever the hell you want.
You could talk about it here, or post a journal, or even do a poll or something, or talk about it on someone else's journal, I dunno.
There are some things that people tend not to do because they're annoying, i.e. bringing up old, dead forum topics and posting excessively in them, but no one's going to stop you, and you'll learn everything real quick.
Well, anyway, welcome to Oasis! We are mostly alive, sometimes there are slow days and sometimes I can't keep up, but we are pretty well alive.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xt5ghXdq6Z0&safe_search=on

centerfielder08's picture

Welcome I care!! And hi We

Welcome

I care!! And hi

We are like a big family. It's awesome and we're here for each other

Yamamoto's picture

Ok guys at this point I

Ok guys at this point I think I am going to kill myself because my best friend in the world it seems was bothered so much by people thinking he was a fag at the chiense restruant yesterday just because it was just me and him hanging out together... and now he doesn't want to hang out with me anymore. He was the last friend that I had in RL... and so was really my only emotional human attachtment that I had left.

I know you guys care about me, but I really don't consider any friends that I have over the internet to be anything more than just... well almost-friends... becuase I don't see you guys face to face. So I am sorry, but that is just not egough to keep me around. I am not sure if I will actually go through with it or not becuase I have never tried this before, and I am very scared of pain and have no other way to do it except with a knife...

Dracofangxxx's picture

are you guys all waiting for my explosive dramacomment?

too bad cause I PM'ed it so that nobody could get on my ass about my approach :U
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lonewolf678's picture

Well,

I've stopped caring about that ,now that we've gotten that difference out of the way.

oldfoxbob's picture

To Yamamoto

You state that you want to end your life That is the wrong thing to do!! What you need to do instead, is stand up for yourself. Let the world know that you do not care what they think. You must go and talk to your friend and tell him/her that regardless of what people think, you two know the truth. The truth is "who cares what they think!
People are always making fun of others simply because they are the ones who are insecure about themselves. It is a proven fact, people who are afraid, or make fun or, or put down homosexuality have the highest tendency to be homosexual themselves. Thus those who made fun of you two probably are in the closet themselves.
Human tendency is to cover up inadequacies and imperfections of themselves in any way they can. We use makeup to cover blemishes, we paint our cars when they get badly scratched. We dress in gaudy colored clothing to hide our bodys. So to off yourself is totally the wrong thing to do as it makes them the winner. You are far better than that. You say you only have this one friend? Not so. There are the people in class you joke with, the people at work you laugh and kid with. The people at the grocery store you go to all the time and smile and wave to. They are friends! They may not be as close a friend as your one that you mentioned here, but you DO have friends.
When a person kills them self, they hurt lots of people. Mom and Dad are left trying to find where they went wrong or what they could have done differently. Little brother or sister are hurt the most. Think of the times you spent with your siblings doing just goofy things. Tickling each other, or running in the back yard after a ball. All those Good times are now black and hurting. To contemplate suicide is the wrong thing to do. It also says there are deep emotional needs that are not being met. You need to talk to someone who knows how to answer your questions. The Boy and Girls town hotline is a good start. Give them a call at 1-800-448-3000 . They know the answers or can tell you where to get them.
If you kill yourself you will miss out on finding the love of your life. Having a great sex life. Getting your rocks off a lot more than you are now. Getting a great job, the satisfaction of knowing you did a good job on something. Having children of your own. naturally or adopted. Watching them grow up, laughing with them and your loved one together over spilt milk, or the cake that fell on the floor when you baked it and it slipped out of your hands. The little things that make life good. All those would never happen and so many people would be sad, hurt and have a empty feeling for the rest of their life. I know, My first love killed himself while I was gone. Even though I eventually married, had kids, divorced, and remarried to my Gay lover. I will always have a empty spot in my heart for Bobby. That is the same for all those people you now know, close or far if you off yourself. Call that phone number right now. Not tomorrow, but now. Please, you may think we do not care because we are not RL friends. Wrong, we all here DO care. We will all cry if you were to kill yourself. We will all be hurt So Please please please Call that number now.
You are loved. Please let me know that you called.
Oldfoxbob.

Genius is not a sign of intelligence, but rather
that of common sense. Humor is the best pain pill.

Yamamoto's picture

I am sorry I can't call any

I am sorry I can't call any number like that.... if they tell the people at my school then I will get kicked out of college... that is just what my school does to people who are sucidal. It almost happened to me once, but I was able to get back in once I proved that I wasn't. I can't call any number... besides you don't know anything about me or what I want. I am sorry, but life cannot provide me what I desire, because what I want doesn't exist at all... and I really don't feel comforntable talking about that over the thing here where others could see becuase I know that you guys will think that it is stupid. I why I should keep living, in a world I don't believe I was ment to be born in. I think I was born in the wrong dimension or somthing. That is really the only way to explian in :(

Dracofangxxx's picture

I think your life is worth more

than getting kicked out of college...
Besides, if you DIE, you're automatically kicked out of college.

So euh...
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hellonwheels's picture

I have felt

the same way you are right now about life not offering what you want many times before, and have been where you are currently....vulnerable and depressed, but listen to bob. If you can't call them, even from a payphone, call the trevor project or talk to someone locally. legally, due to conifdentiality agreements, your school. can't do anything. And if your social situatuation and your school aren't willing to help you, is it really worth going there?

I learned something from my doc, and it holds true for me today....often, the fear we have is worse than the actual event....example...coming out, talking to friends about suicide, etc.

the girls/ boys town hotline are all there for you, and they do care. 100% confidential. Also, the trevor project and it gets better.org are great resources.

hang in there

hell

Mental wounds not healing, driving me insane, i'm goin' off the rails on a crazy train- the ozzman

Yamamoto's picture

If I get kicked out of

If I get kicked out of college... I have nothing left but to go live in a very small town where there are no other homosexuals and no support. College is my key to escape, and my only route out... I am not quiting even if it means my life.

centerfielder08's picture

Ending your life is

Ending your life is quitting, though..

centerfielder08's picture

sorry i apologize if that

sorry i apologize if that came off rudely.

Dracofangxxx's picture

My point exactly, friend :)

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Yamamoto's picture

But there is a differnace

But there is a differnace bettewen quitting life and quitting college... if I quite college and don't quite life then my life will be the worse ever that sucks. So that is why I can only quit a life... that is the only quiting that I am allowed to do.

hellonwheels's picture

wrong...

you can change from the life you are leading now, and surround yourself with a new school, new group of friends, and a new location, if necessary. sometimes in life, a dramatic change is necessary to step out of your comfort zone, and often, to maturing as a process itself. I suggest that you DO look into what oldfox said, as they are bound to strict confidentiality agreements. If you feel your anonymity is @ risk, then find somewhere locally you can talk to.

It definitely helps to talk or let out your feelings by typign them. Hell, the first time I posted on here, I could barely touch a finger to a key, I was that nervous. even if it is s school therapist....and you can always talk here. I know that we are not necessarily friends that you meet in person, but people on this site are REAL and are going through a lot of the same emotions and helplessness that you are feeling.

YOU ARE NOT ALONE! and this site, and the people on it are a great resource for you!

-hell

Mental wounds not healing, driving me insane, i'm goin' off the rails on a crazy train- the ozzman

Dracofangxxx's picture

Dude that's what I said, too, bro! :D

And I agree, writing on here will DEFINITELY help. Sometimes venting emotions with people you trust is awesome and way better than you think.
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centerfielder08's picture

Orr...do you want the link

Orr...do you want the link for some online crisis chatlines I found? They're anonymous and you dont have to give any info to them but they're helpful.

Yamamoto's picture

A online help thing. That

A online help thing. That might be more useful to me, I am just so scared to make any calls or anything...

centerfielder08's picture

I can totally relate. here

I can totally relate.

here are two:
crisischat.org

and

youthinbc.com

I like the crisischat.org one more because I find them more helpful

Yamamoto's picture

Yeah well I have tried those

Yeah well I have tried those two out and nethier really worked, and in fact I felt very uncomforntable the whole fucking time :(... Never doing anything like that again, I think I will just stick to talking to people I know about my problems instead of random strangers on the internet who creep me out... big time. :(

Yamamoto's picture

Well I have almost

Well I have almost completely skipped class all day today becuase I am so fucking depressed over things that don't even exsist in my life... and are really only thoughts in my brain and at this point don't really have anything to do with me :(... It is just so bad I feel like maybe I should cut my dick off becuase I feel that it just might be a usless organ... and for anyone who says I bicth way to much... well you know what... FUCK YOU!!! Becuase that is how I feel, I can't act all happy and say that I am happy when I don't feel happy so sorry for all the bicthing, but if you want to know how I feel on any given day... well this is how it is :(

oldfoxbob's picture

dont cut it off

Depression hurts I know, but the pain CAN go away if YOU take one step at a time to help YOURSELF! I know of NO college that prohibits you from telephoning home, or other places. There are public telephones someplace in every country. Unless you are prohibited from leaving your room you can go make the phone call then do call a local suicide prevention hotline. Your local religious leader of your religion can also guide you in the right path. To end ones life is a cowards way out. It hurt not the one killing themselves but it hurts every one they have ever met. Not only family: mother, father, brother, sister etc, but friends that they don't even know they have. The boy they used to play with down the road, the girl who lives across the street. The neighbor who waved hello ever day. The guy who is across the hall from you that has a silent crush on you but is afraid to say it. People like that. Please do not take your life. Get help, we all here have said the same thing. You need help and your asking here is the first step because it shows you truly do not want to end your life and you truly do want help on this. So the next step is up to you now. We do not know where you live, what your name is , or really any thing about you, yet as you can see, we all have reached out to show WE care for you even still. We all have had bad days, weeks, months, and yes even years. But we all reached out and found some one to talk to. We all reached out and found some one to get help from. You need to reach out at home to do that for yourself.
If I were able I would take you in my arms and hold you and comfort you, even though we have never met. I would not care if you were ugly, cute, black, white, or green with pink poka dots. I like the others here care about you in a way you do not seem to realize. We have all been there and done that. WE DO CARE! Please let us know where you are, and who you are so we can reach out to you to help you. Let us show we care about you in the way only fellow gay people can. with love and passion like no other. Please.

Genius is not a sign of intelligence, but rather
that of common sense. Humor is the best pain pill.

Yamamoto's picture

In truth I can't really tell

In truth I can't really tell you anything about where I live or anything like that. The reason is that the last time I did that, I was reported by a person on the internet for being sucidal and kicked out of school until I could get a doctors note to prove I wasn't... so I am sorry, but you can't have that kind of information becuase you could ruin my whole life with it... as for how you guys have treated me... yes you where nice at first, but then you got to know me and alot of people have been on the overly blunt side and it really hurts and doesn't really endear me to this community.

Dude and I have to tell you that your messages are so impersonal and show that you know nothing about me... that I am really getting sick of it. If you just going to cut and paste some crap that has not meaning behind it, and I can tell you not a single fucking word in it discripes any part of life... I only 21... I am in college.... there is no one available to have a crush on me.... I don't have negihbors of my age and never really have in my life becuase I haven't really have any friends. So quit it with the bull shit words that are just like hearing a atuomated message when you try to call out for help...

Dracofangxxx's picture

Hello, I'm Yamamoto

And I spit in the faces of people who are trying to help me!

And I wonder why nobody would want to have a crush on me!

I mean, jesus dude. What do you WANT? I was blunt, he's being nice! Yet you bitch about both methods :I I mean, if you don't want asskissing, and don't want people to be blunt, WHAT are you even looking for?! You're being an asshole to anyone who tries to help you and it's really not cool.
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Yamamoto's picture

Dracofang stay off all my

Dracofang stay off all my threads... your a immature teenager just like all the rest who tortured me, and has contiuned to torture me... and it seems if I get any more invovled in the gay commuity then I am guessing I will contiuned to get tortured in a totally differnt way, form what I have seen here only the really older gay guys actually have any sense or caring, maybe the trade off form being homo is that until you reach a certian age your a asshole or somthing. Becuase that is what I am starting to see. :'(

If you are curious I don't act like around people in the real world. I only do this to people on the internet becuase I only consider you guys to be faceless avaters sinice there will never be a day when I can get a comfornting hug form you or here your voice. Plus if you where so stupid as to not read my post, then you would notice that there is no one to have a crush on me around so duh.... of course no one does.

He wasn't being nice... he was just putting out a auto post in reaction to sucide thing... I mean it was so generic that it really showed me that he didn't give a shit at all. So really I don't count that has someone being nice. I don't need a ass kissing... you fuck tard. Just someone to be nice to me is fucking all.

Dracofangxxx's picture

I'm not immature,

I'm incredibly mature compared to you. I solve all my own problems except a select few. I'm thankful for people trying to help me. I work hard, I make smart decisions, and if someone shows me kindness I am DAMN well happy about it.

But you're being an ungrateful little bastard about all of this. I was nice to you at first, but you just stepped all over everything I said. You want a nice, sincere comment and you get one and immediately think, "That is just a copy/paste comment". How is he supposed to know you personally? Magic? He's trying to help. We're ALL trying to help. But you're so mean and rude as to be ungrateful for everything we try to tell you. You DO want asskissing, because you want a nice comment to be SPESHULLLL and MAGICALLL and different. But what are we supposed to say? EVERY attempt at trying to save your life, you give an excuse. You throw up these reasons for why you can't take charge of your own life, you want OTHER PEOPLE to do it for you.

But we won't.

And I did read your comment, and I read your PM's about how the only gay guys around you aren't your taste. They COULD have a crush on you, but you'd be ungrateful there, too. There's even more in-the-closet gay people you don't even know about. To think there isn't is so wrong. Just because there aren't OMG I AM GAY, LOOK AT ME PISS RAINBOWS EVERYWHERE people all around you, doesn't mean they aren't THERE.

Anyways...
Funny how if I'm just an avatar to you, you sure get upset over what everyone says here. Not just me. Everyone. After a repeated bout of people not really accepting your behavior, don't you start to think the problem isn't with us?...

I mean, blame whatever you want, but it's your life. And you don't get that. You think everything is outta your control, so you try to manipulate people into making you do stuff, or feel how you want to feel.

No, really: Tell me what you want from us here. Completely. I'll sit back and wait for it.

EDIT: sorry for the dramallama stuff guys, lolololol
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Yamamoto's picture

HAHAHAHHAAHAHHAHAHA

HAHAHAHHAAHAHHAHAHA Dracofang you are the funniest thing every. I mean really everything you said there was just so funny. I have never laughed so hard in a long time. I mean do you really think anything you said about me is ture. Becuase if it was I would be dead already becuase of my weak willed nature. Talking about making stupid assumitions.... I mean as I said I bicth you on the internet... and I betime I am done I feel better in real life. So whatever you want...

As for the gay guys around here. Yeah there may be some in the closet, but that doesn't fucking help me very much... and those who are out of the closet are all sex addicts,... man hoares.... and black guys.... which is a triple whammy for me when it comes to not wanting to date a person. SO DON'T FUCKING TELL ME THAT I DON'T KNOW THERE IS NO ONE TO DATE. I mean you must be as dumb as hell to think you know anything about where I live... when I have told you nothing about it. Plus it is obvious that he has not read anything I have put down, becuaes I have told you guys everything about me... via my profile and post, so there is no excuse for posting somthing that 'generic'...

In fact the reason I refuse any of your nice nature and could care less is becuase I hate most of you... I hate myself include. I seriously hate humans as a people especially gay guys becuase all I have ever seen is a bunch of sex addicted scum bags who don't understand what the word relationship means... I am tried of these guys acting like sex is what binds a relationship and tearing apart love, which is turly the last thing I have to believe in, in this world *Cries*.... I don't understand how can you be just so carefree when it comes to sex... it is just to beaitful of a thing to be that fucking carefree. WHICH IS WHY I HATE THEM AND HOPE THEY DIE IN A SEIS POOL OF THERE OWN AIDS FEELED FILTH!!!.... I DON'T CARE WHAT YOU THINK OF ME ANY MORE... Becuase in truth it has no effect on my life or anyone elses, what I do to myself. SO JUST GO SHOVE IT UP YOUR ASS....... YOU KNOW NOTHING ABOUT ME......... AND THE FACT YOU ASSUME YOU DO......

well you know what they say about assuming :(

Dracofangxxx's picture

Nice defense mechanism, with the laughing.

And... Um... Black guys?... So you're racist. You don't want to date people cause they're black homosexuals?

Wow.

Anyways, what you said was that there was nobody around to like you or have a crush on you, and I was exactly right: There is, but you think you're good for them. That's not my problem, that isn't what I was addressing. I just showed you your fault: There IS people who will like you, you just spit on that chance, too.
So just keep on changing the subject concerning what I'm saying. It's so incredibly mature, it's insane.

Hey, my sex is my sex. I'm safe about it, so it's not really "carefree". I'm not promiscuous, I'm not a whore. I found one person who I'm comfortable enough to do almost anything with, and I stuck with it. Besides... He may be hard to handle sometimes, but I put it past me. Sometimes you have to step back to appreciate a work of art. Maybe he's not "the one", but for right now, he's the best I've ever had. So I stay with it because you never know how the future will end up.

Look at that anger construed of misspelled words and swears. Mm. Nothing like you pretending like you don't care when obviously the things I say hit home for you.

And of course, again, you ignore the fact that I say you're in control of your own life. That all the bad things that happen can be controlled by your own actions and will.
Do you deny that this is true?
And you still didn't say what you wanted from us. Why are you on here if you hate gays and want them to die? Drama? Attention?

Cause you look like such a crybaby right now. I mean, all these people want you to live and be happy, and all you do is spout hate and ungratefullness.
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Yamamoto's picture

WHAT THE FUCK... I AM NOT

WHAT THE FUCK... I AM NOT RASICT...................... I DON'T FUCKING HAVE TO BE ATTRACTED TO BLACK PEOPLE YOU ASSHOLE. ONE OF MY BEST FRIENDS IS BLACK, AND SO IS ONE OF MY ROOMATES AT THE NEXT SCHOOL I TRANSFER TOO YOU FUCKING ASSHOLE..... THAT IS THE STUPIDEST SHIT EVER TELLING ME I HAVE TO BE ATTRACTED TO EVERY RACE... THAT IS THE STUPIDEST SHIT EVER... IT IS HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH BEING FUCKING RAISCT...... :@

Actually the mispelled words and cussing is just how I am... I always cuss multiple times in a sentance if that is bad, then that is becuase the human race is to stupid to know they are just words... so I don't really care. As for the mispellings I could correct that if I felt like using spell checker, but I am too lazy to do so, and so yet again you show how stupid you are when it comes to know what I am doing or thinking.

Plus Dragonfang, I know your type. You don't give a damn wethier I live or die. Your just get your jollies off of being a asshole to me. Now while I said I wasn't rasict... I most certianly am sexist and will admit it. Becuase I really don't like females, becuase all I have noticed is that you guys just love to be such assholes to me for no reason and tell me that I have to act 'like a fucking man' or whatever that bullshit means, but that is off topic and I am saving that for a rant in a journal.

So I know that as a teenage girl your just going to torture me like all the ones I met in highschool and in turth you could really care less. Which has been proving time and time again with the way you talk towards me in the method that a bully would....

How does it feel to be a bully... must feel great don't it...

Dracofangxxx's picture

Um...

Dismissing someone as a possible boyfriend because they ARE black is racist. Slightly. Not so far as KKK but you know... You don't give them a chance? >_>

and lol, playing the "one of my best friends is "such and such" game."...

I'm not a bully. What I am, is being honest because you're being a DICK to people. Being a bully is being mean and trying to have power over people. What I'm trying to do is get you to stop being an asshole to everyone who's trying to help you. And to stop being so whiny about things that are totally in your control.

I don't hate you because of stupid things that you can't control. I don't even hate you. But when you get up on my friend's backs and treat them badly for helping you, I AM OFFENDED, and I will protect my friends.
Yeah, whiteknighting. But these people are important to me. I'm nice to people if they deserve it.

Of course I care if you live or die- I GAVE YOU ADVICE on how to make things better so you'd WANT to live. Forget that? Yeah. Selective memory. But as soon as you dismissed every advice, I get a little pissed off.

And you want to kill your roommate... So I'm the bully? I want what's best for you. I want you to be happy and not depressed. I also don't want you being a dick to my friends. They come before you. Everyone on this site means a whole lot to me. Even you, when you're not going crazy. But you're literally insane. You want tons of people to die for their own personal choices. You're sexist, and racist.

Bullying is when you pick on someone weaker than you.
I'm arguing with you because you're pushing my friends around to not say "generic" nice comments.

Who's the bully? Who would know, considering as a child my sister beat me and insulted me all the time. Bullying is DIFFERENT than telling someone they're being an asshole or they're being ingrateful. Because you CHOOSE to be ingrateful and mean to people.

You know what feels great? Being mentally healthy most of the time. Not acting murderous or suicidal every day. It's great. I feel strong and in charge of my life.
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Yamamoto's picture

:(

Sorry for some reason it double posted :(

Yamamoto's picture

Dragonfang.... you are right

Dragonfang.... you are right compeltely.... I will try to be better form now on, but I can already tell that you don't want to be my friend....

The only thing that has pissed me off that you have said is that I am required to date black guys... I don't fucking want to, and you know what. I realize somthing. If you think it is rasict, then I really could careless, becuase I don't think it is... and nethier does anyone else I know. Hell the three black gay guys at my school don't even think it is rasict. My ex....... and yes there is one........ who was indeed black..... and yes I am telling you that I was lieing about never having a boyfriend..... he would never have dated a black dude, becuaes he only liked white boys. So I am sorry, but I don't find that rasict, I just find it somthing that one is attracted to.

Anyway, I don't feel like being a ass anymore, becuase your right it is just stupid. Plus I don't really want to kill anyone. In fact what I really want to do is pretend I didn't act like a nutter to get attention, which I am spilling my guts and making a apology that that is what I do. It is sick thing which I do and I will be getting help this summer. I promise... I just hope I can make it up to your guys eventually for being a ass to you all, but I am going through a bad time which is hard to deal with, becuase I won't have close friends until after the summer.

Can you forgive me and we just quite arguing.... I am tried of it, and it is cuasing me a major headache becuase it is such a drag, and you remind me of someone I know... Maybe I should call her instead :P....... and I am not really that sexist... I just say that when I am mad. As I said I say a lot of shit to get attention online, becuase it is somthing I can never get in the offline world...

Dracofangxxx's picture

I don't know if you're serious,

But thanks.
If you lose the crazy angriness and hate, I would be your friend. Duh. But I don't know if you'd particularily like me considering you caused me to get all angry D:

Anyways, you don't HAVE to date black guys. I mean, it's acceptable to think they're less attractive than other races... But not dating them because they're black is pretty racist. I'd give any race a CHANCE, but maybe it wouldn't work out because I just didn't like it.
I dunno, it was just the way you said it that made it seem really hateful.

Anyways, yeah. Call that person. Get it all out. I think you need to take some time to think about who you are and what you really want from life. As I said... It's all within your power. You can do anything if you put your mind to it.
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Yamamoto's picture

Don't worry I understand you

Don't worry I understand you don't believe me, but over my next few journals.... starting with first chapter of my novel which I want you all to see and comment on till your hearts desires...

So heres to trying to start over fresh.....

KANPAI!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :P

lonewolf678's picture

Dude.

Are you a troll?

Yamamoto's picture

A what?

A what?

oldfoxbob's picture

Starting to doubt you

I am beginning to doubt you are who and what you say you are. You come here asking for help, yet only yell at the people who try to help you. Calling them names and spewing hate. You sound too much like you are a fake, only here to cause problems. I doubt that is true but that is the way your are now coming across. If you really want help then get up off your butt and go out there and get it. We have told you of places to call, go , see, and things to do. Yet you refuse to seek them out. Please explain your self here. I am very confused as to why you are here in the first place. Nuff said.

Genius is not a sign of intelligence, but rather
that of common sense. Humor is the best pain pill.

Yamamoto's picture

I understand that you have

I understand that you have told me to get help, but I don't have a car or transportation to get anywhere, and I live in a small town with no bus system... where in the fuck do you expect me to go silly :P

I am sorry, but this is the only place that I have... :( Don't believe me then I will galdly invite you to visit my home and I will prove it to you... :)

Plus Bob I would like for you to please not to talk me. Becuase your morals are on the other side form what mine are... and I normally avoid people like that, and usally those are people I spew hate at... so I am going to as that you don't speak to me anymore, becuase you usally piss me off everytime you do... sinice in turth I can only see you as a man whore :(

jeff's picture

Just a heads up...

In the gay community, you are probably going to encounter more "man whores" than whatever term you use to describe yourself. How Bob lives his life doesn't actually impact the advice he gives, just like I also have friends who are religious, in long-term monogamous relationships, in long-term open relationship, sex workers, transgender, etc., etc. You have to meet people where they are and accept your differences, or only find a little echo chamber of a community with people like you. The former is a much better, and much easier, way to live.

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"Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are." - Kurt Cobain

Yamamoto's picture

How is it so much better...

How is it so much better... everytime I meet the people like you are talking about, I get extermally depressed. Why becuase I want to save anyone whose lives they might pontentially dystory, with there(In my personal option) poor choice of condect in there sex lives. I think about there could be so poor virgin being pressure or someone who was pressure and is full of regret and I began to die inside and, it makes me cry becuase there was nothing I could do. So I get extermally hateful towards these people whenever I see them, because of the damage that they could have done to someone else who is not as strong willed or as knowlegdable as I am :'(

So yes in my eyes it impacts the advice, becuase I don't want any advice coming form someone who could have potentailly dystoryed someones life...

jeff's picture

Well...

Most virgins I know want to stop being virgins as soon as they can, whether they want a hookup, boyfriend, or whatever. This is like making a big deal of having your first piece of pizza, and wanting everything to be perfect. It's just pizza. There's a lot more pizza where that came from. Some is amazing, some is blah, but it's everywhere.

I'm not sure why it is always about virgins being forced to give up their virginity. Most want it gone.

Do some people regret who they slept with, either as a virgin or as a manwhore? Of course. It happens.

I was once drunk in a club, and some other drunk guy in a club was all over me. At one point, he said "You're not even the type I normally go for..." and I said, "Oh well, you can regret me tomorrow..." We didn't hook up, since he was a bit too out there for me, but sexual stuff should be playful.

If you're safe, the stakes are low. When I run into guys I've hooked up with, we hug, talk for a bit, catch up. Not boyfriends. These are just hookups. We're friends on Facebook, etc. It is completely normal.

Sex isn't about victimhood, unless that's agreed upon in advance with a safe word. Mine is applesauce.

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"Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are." - Kurt Cobain

Yamamoto's picture

Well I am sorry, but I have

Well I am sorry, but I have never seen a image of two humans having sex that didn't like the guy getting fucked was a victim... never in my life. Yet when it comes to furries... well that is a whole differnt story, becuase everybody looks caring and adoring there... :P That is another problem... my obession with furries is so bad that I really can't think of humans in much of a sexual way anymore... :( and it really makes me kind of sad and depressed when I think about that too...