Help... Confused about sexuality??

MeMyselfandI123's picture

Okay.. Im 14... Girl... I have asked several questions about this just need more answers.......I have been questioning my sexuality ALOT. So please answer (:
It all started when i was 13 and I was watching pretty little liars and two girls kiss on there and i was like "what if i am a lesbian" ever since that day... i am constantly thinking about it. The weird part is.. I have never found a girl sexual attractive.. I do not want to kiss a girl... I cant see myself in a relationship with a girl. I have always found guys attractive and thought about kissing them etc. I would "test" myself when ANY girl came on TV if i would get turned on by her.. i get so nervous it like makes my chest tight like i cant breath and i never do get turned on by a girl. I read some where if you watch girl on girl you will get turned on by that but they were just kissing..... i got a little turned on by that but not muchh.. I watched guy on guy and i have to admit that was hot and sexy got REALLY turned on by that... Then i came across a story about two lesbian doing it... it was VERY detailed... and i got very very turned on by that... Is it maybe because i want that done to me? but i dont want it done by a girl i know that for sure. i got to a counsler... she told me i was just thinking about it to cover up my family fighting and crap and i dont think its that... I dont get turned on when i see a woman naked at all... i like how guys look with abs... So judge by this what do you think i am????If you question your sexuality does it make you one??? So CONFUSED! HELP! :(

Perhaps We Should Leave's picture

Welp

I'm gonna tell you right now- no matter what anyone says, they really don't know what your sexuality is better than you do. ONLY YOU can prevent forest fi- wait. I mean, ONLY YOU know what your sexuality is.

But I will advise you to experiment a little beyond the realms of television. Nothing drastic- you're only 14. Stay within legal realms (listen to ME saying this, of all people, I'm the least likely to advise your to staying within the law, so I mean it) but try out being with girls a little. If you like it, carry on. If it's not your cuppa, it's not your cuppa.

Stay loose about it, don't worry so much. Life is like a river- always changing. You never step into the same river twice. So just go with the flow. As The Dude would say- Abide.

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jeff's picture

Eh...

No one can tell you what you are. That's your job.

So, you don't like girls, aren't attracted to them, don't want to see them naked, don't want to have sex with them... but if you see two girls kiss in a movie, it's a bit hot? Uhh... keep an open mind and all, but if that's it, sounds pretty straight to me. If you don't have a boyfriend, you probably just want *someone* to do those things to you, and the differentness of the girl on girl action may be titillating, but if you're attracted to guys and want to sleep with them, go for it.

There is also bi, in which case you don't have to pick either side. I'd just live your life for 10 years, sleep with whomever you want, and at that point, look back. If you only slept with guys, straight. If you only slept with girls, lesbian. If you enjoyed sleeping with both and see that as your thing, bi. Labeling an unused sexuality is way less fun than exploring the bounds of a voracious sexuality.

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"Why be given a body if you have to keep it locked up in a case like a rare, rare fiddle?" - Katherine Mansfield

Perhaps We Should Leave's picture

See, Jeff...

That's unfair. Why can you make things I try to say sound so much better?

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If there is a god, why couldn't he have given me wings?

jeff's picture

It's...

A heightened vocabulary, 15+ years of doing this, and just a subtle hint of indifference that makes it sing...

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"Why be given a body if you have to keep it locked up in a case like a rare, rare fiddle?" - Katherine Mansfield