I thought she was doing okay, being back in her own house, which is what she wanted more than anything else. But apparently no. She hates not being allowed to go upstairs, and today she tried to beat one of her caregivers with a cane. Not that that would actually do much damage, weak as she is, but still... beating someone with a cane. She'll never be happy again - not if she won't leave her house and won't stay downstairs and won't let people help her; the only other option is slowly wasting away and starving and taking double doses of every medication every day (because she forgets that she's taken them the first time) and falling down and lying on the floor in a soiled diaper. I'm not even exaggerating - that's the state in which we found her a month ago. The only thing we haven't tried yet is putting her in a full-time nursing home - that's going to happen soon, but it's not going to work. It's just not going to work. Living self-sufficiently alone at home didn't work, living with her favorite relatives didn't work, living under safened conditions in her own beloved house didn't work even though it was obviously the best solution, a nursing home is most definitely not going to work.
All she wants is to die in her bedroom at home. But that's not going to happen - she's not dying. Her brain has atrophied away and her muscles have atrophied away and everything's deteriorated, yes, but none of that can kill her - her organs are all functioning well enough to keep her alive, provided she keeps eating. Starving to death is an awful way to go, and she wouldn't even do it voluntarily, wouldn't just lie in bed and decide 'I'm not getting up, I'm not getting food.' The only likely death for her is falling on the floor and not being able to get to the food. And that's awful. We can't let that happen and we won't let that happen, but we don't know what to do instead.
The caretakers will keep coming in for the next few days. Everyone hopes that Oma will let them help her and won't try to beat them with a cane anymore, but there's just no predicting.