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Uncertain's picture

New things:
1. So exams are officially over.
2. Had a business meeting today. Our company is now legally incorporated. Website under production.
3. Still hungover from last night. But one of the best nights I've had.
4. I am learning French next semester.
5. Do not like Josh anymore, just want to be good mates with him.
6. Realised I want a few close gay friends.
7. Scared of relationships right now. But also don't want meaningless sex. What a dilemma.
8. Going down to Wellington (the capital) over the weekend for a tournament/party.
9. Trying to get a BBQ and chuck it on my balcony.
10. Going to resume gym routine. Gotta get in shape over the break,
11. Friend's mother rented a penthouse in Gold Coast in February and invited a bunch of us over. Oh my God.

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elph's picture

Nothing intrinsically wrong with...

...meaningless sex.

After all... think about masturbation. But I really don't believe that this is what you were planning on giving up :)

But there is much to commend a shared sexual experience as long as it is safe, mutually desired and enjoyed... with goodbyes being friendly and expressed with every expectation/hope of there being a next time. *

These would be my conditions were I allowed another life... you may not agree. :) and :(

*Obligatory edit: Upon reflecting (ten minutes later) upon what I've written, I now recognize that such blissful encounters would be far from meaningless!

jeff's picture

Meaningless sex...

doesn't exist. That is judgmental language used by people who aren't getting any.

Hopefully, in your hookups, you've had moments of mutual intimacy and fun with someone else. It should never be about using someone for sex, where either expects more or isn't on the same page. Instead, just a fleeting connection is forged where you share joy, humanity, and respect for one another.

Whenever I had a trick, it ended up being the start of a casual friendship. You'd see them a few weeks later at the bar, approach one another, hug, see how the other is, maybe dance. Very fun.

I even have a guy on Facebook, where I messaged him that, had I known he was such an interesting guy, I should have dated him instead of gone for the hookup. And he just replied with a smiley face.

If there is meaningless sex out there, I've somehow managed to avoid it.

What kind of company you starting? I want shares!

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"You can judge the whole world on the sparkle that you think it lacks" - Dawes, When My Time Comes (http://youtu.be/Z0FrcTX6hWI)

Uncertain's picture

Eye opener jeff

Eye opener jeff.

Re company: nothing hard core, it started off as a university project. I can't really say what it is, but similar things in the past include projects which linked artists and exhibiting space together, or a channel through which asset rich and cash poor schools can sell things. Simple ideas like that.

jeff's picture

Hmm...

That doesn't sound like you're going to make me rich...

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"You can judge the whole world on the sparkle that you think it lacks" - Dawes, When My Time Comes (http://youtu.be/Z0FrcTX6hWI)

Uncertain's picture

Probably not. Hahahaha

Probably not. Hahahaha

Uncertain's picture

On meaningless sex

I agree with you to some extent jeff. Yes, the one boy I like right now doesn't like me, so I guess in that respect 'I am not getting any'. But the meaningless would come from having sex with others who have presented themselves but I do not like in that way. For once I'm actually trying to be more cautious with my feelings and you're calling me a prude? Not fair

jeff's picture

Nah, you're fine...

That violates: "It should never be about using someone for sex, where either expects more or isn't on the same page." So, if they want more from you, and you don't want more from them, sex is not allowed.

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"You can judge the whole world on the sparkle that you think it lacks" - Dawes, When My Time Comes (http://youtu.be/Z0FrcTX6hWI)

elph's picture

Is this (good) advice anything more...

...than a corollary to my position (expressed above)?