yeah ok so

625539's picture

my boyfriend broke up with me yesterday cos shit just isn't working out

then this morning he's like oh yeah there's a feist concert in december i really want to go

like dude you don't do that
then he's like yeah im coming over in 40 minutes to talk but like...
i don't *want* to talk to him
i don't want to see him

like i'm not down to like break up with you and get back together the next day AGAIN

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Uncertain's picture

Confusing

Confusing

elph's picture

Regrettably...

...this seems to be the story of his life!

jeff's picture

Jeez...

Do you need an IMAX screen for a projection that big? ;-)

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"You can judge the whole world on the sparkle that you think it lacks" - Dawes, When My Time Comes (http://youtu.be/Z0FrcTX6hWI)

625539's picture

yes ahaha

yes ahaha

Quietwarrior's picture

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Yeah that's just strange, but a Feist concert now thats very important. Have you listened to her new album, i am in love once again.

625539's picture

yeah i'm going irregardless,

yeah i'm going irregardless, i love her

jeff's picture

To be fair...

Gay men don't tend to have bitter breakups and those people leave their lives. I mean, you can go to parties in SF and trace who you used to date who, and if you broaden that to just who's slept with who, it's nearly Mormon... (I don't really know what that means, but it amuses me too much to remove).

Sounds like he calls the shots: tells you what's happening, that you're back together, that you're going to see Feist, that he's coming over. I mean, passive in the sheets is one thing, but just tell him what you want. Do you think of him as an ex? Then act accordingly, whatever that is. Doesn't mean you'll never hang out socially again, or that you'll never sleep together again, but you both need to arrive at a point where that is desired and comfortable, and not still weird.

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"You can judge the whole world on the sparkle that you think it lacks" - Dawes, When My Time Comes (http://youtu.be/Z0FrcTX6hWI)

625539's picture

yeah i told him to leave me

yeah i told him to leave me alone and gave him all his stuff back...

but before that he was like YEAH SO UH I HOPE YOU DON'T DO ANYTHING STUPID IF YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN (saying that he doesn't want me to go and make a whore of myself)

like if that's what you want then don't break up with me silly...

but he was also all "you're the love of my life!" and offering me rides or to go get me coffee and i was like no. for fuck's sake, give me 24 hours.

Uncertain's picture

On Jeff's point about gay men being incestuous

Yeah I know and see so many exs who still hang out. But to do that straight after a break up still seems a bit too soon.

elph's picture

Incestuous?

I'd think promiscuous.

But... being gay (and similarly for the non-gay) comes in a continuum of proclivities... from the aberrantly bizarre and risky to the many who pursue experiencing genuine mutual affection (and wherever that may naturally lead).

This is where choice does exist!

It is not required that you admire or feel obliged to emulate those behaviors you find unappealing. I know I couldn't...