Finally figured it all out.

radiosilence95's picture

I've come to a conclusion about girls. Many of them like to be treated like shit. They do. I see it all the time, everywhere. This explains why I'm single. I'm too nice. I'm too sweet and caring and submissive. If I treat girls like shit, they'll like me. Am I being sarcastic right now? Sort of. Not entirely.

Let me share with you how I came to this conclusion. My best friend, once again, pushed me aside for some guy who (surprise!) treats her horribly. She promised we'd spend the day together yesterday. I hear nothing from her throughout the entire day. Finally, at around eightish, she texts me saying that she's all happy because she just spent the day with this asshole who's been a jerk to her and suddenly everything's great. She COMPLETELY "forgot" about spending the day with me.

Once she realized this, she apologized over and over again. I was really short and rude to her throughout our conversation. I think she deserved it. This wouldn't be such a big deal, but she does this ALL THE TIME. She gets head over heels over some random asshole and puts him before me. I have to listen to her rave about guy after guy after guy, I give her advice, I act happy for her, I play the role of the supportive best friend.

But it doesn't matter how much support I show, how much advice I give, how much I listen to her. She'll never appreciate me. Not only this, but EVERY TIME she says we'll hang out, we never do. Something always comes up. Always. And I'm tired of all this. I'm tired of being a doormat.

So I sent her one final text: "You like guys who treat you like shit. Maybe if I treat you like shit too, you'll like me more. What do you think?"

I'm glad I hurt her feelings. She needs to know what it feels like, to be pushed aside. I haven't spoken to her since yesterday. I'm waiting to see how long it'll take before one of caves and breaks the silence. And it's not gonna be me this time.

So yeah. This Christmas break has really not been fun. My best friend has yet again let me down, my cold won't go away, and I still have not collected the courage to text Brittany. Everything is a big ball of suck right now and I feel really, really alone. I just wanna crawl in bed and sleep the rest of break away. That is what I'll probably end up doing.

Sorry I'm being all mopey and depressed. I haven't felt like this in quite awhile because I've been feeling so optimistic and good lately, but emotional slumps have to happen some time, I suppose. I just feel like everything I'm going through right now I'm going through alone. I really don't have anybody, except for my best friend, and look at how that's turning out. Bleh.

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RainbowTime's picture

i have

heard of women who like being treated like shit but never met one

if you need any help with texting Brittany just ask me the resident expert on this

i only drink irn bru and the occassional blood of my enemies

Dracofangxxx's picture

They're mostly the sluts

And I don't think it's that they like being treated like shit, it's that they feel that if a person that's normally a douche is nice to them, that makes them some huge special deal and oh they must be a big deal to them

(but usually it just means casual sex)
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That's redick!

Yamamoto's picture

Frankly that just seems like

Frankly that just seems like a stupid idea... :P I wish all the women in the world would just die out... kind of like a oppisate version of that comic Y... :P I hate them so much... well... at least all women younger than me... or 10 years older... basically those not in my family :P Then there are a couple in my family I would love to see gone too :P...

Though I like you Dracofang... though the reason is that sinice we haven't met... it leave you kind of androyous to me. If you know what I mean... sinice I have never seen your face I don't know what you look like and can kind of think of you as a boy or girl :P

Dracofangxxx's picture

Hilariously enough,

Here's a recent picture of me with my new haircut and coat on

http://s3.amazonaws.com/data.tumblr.com/tumblr_lwuq03cLDY1qd5s4ho1_1280....

And I'm 16, younger than you. So do you hate me now? :P
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That's redick!

elph's picture

Great pic...

...great haircut!

Dracofangxxx's picture

Thanks, Elph! :]

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That's redick!

elph's picture

Why...

...are you "up" so early? :)

RainbowTime's picture

You look like my friend Kirsty a bit :D

i only drink irn bru and the occassional blood of my enemies

radiosilence95's picture

Right. Or because they feel

Right. Or because they feel like that's how a relationship is supposed to work, with the guy being an asshole and them trying to change the guy for the better. In my best friend's case, I have no idea. You'd think she'd have more common sense, but I think she's just desperate for attention from the opposite sex, even if that attention is negative. She's kinda all over the place with her emotions...really, I've suspected that she could very well be bipolar. She craves stability and she looks for it in a guy. Sad, really. Also very annoying.

Dracofangxxx's picture

Is there a father figure at her home?

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That's redick!

radiosilence95's picture

Her stepdad hates her. He

Her stepdad hates her. He thinks she's a delinquent, a worthless, good-for-nothing brat. She absolutely adores her real dad, but her dad's wife also hates her and tries to keep her from her father. So, both of her step parents hate her and she's kept from her real dad. So no, not really.

Dracofangxxx's picture

Ah... things make a little more sense that way.

I dunno what it is, but lack of proper father figures tend to make girls like that...
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That's redick!

radiosilence95's picture

I don't have a proper father

I don't have a proper father figure, and I'm not like that. You can't explain that! :P

RainbowTime's picture

me too

me too i only knew my father till i was 6 and im not like that either

i only drink irn bru and the occassional blood of my enemies

elph's picture

Interpersonal relations...

...especially when you're young (guessing that you're in that category) can be extremely convoluted!

My best advice would be to slough it off. Difficult, I know... but saying anything that may be a bit critical stands little chance of winning friends.

My guess is that she'd like to remain your friend, but not quite ready for a "committed" relationship!

I'd put up with her being a bit flaky. If she knows that you're willing to give her some space... I bet your friendship with her will not suffer...

In the meantime, pursue other friendships!

radiosilence95's picture

I'm just gonna avoid talking

I'm just gonna avoid talking her until she says something to me first. I'll let her be the one to initiate a conversation. If she wants me, she knows where to find me.

My critical remark isn't something I really regret saying...I think she needs to hear the truth, blunt and unedited. Maybe it was a bit snide and rude, but that, I think, is the only way for her to realize that she clings to guys who only hurt her, while I sit on the sidelines being all nice and sweet.

Yamamoto's picture

Frankly you are right... I

Frankly you are right... I have noticed the exact same thing about them. Which is one of the reasons I have come to despise and hate them so much :P... Good observation, I gald someone else notices it also.

radiosilence95's picture

Most girls are like this,

Most girls are like this, yes. But not every single one of us is like that. Like me, for example. I'm not like that.

I think 90% of females around my age are not worth knowing. At this age, girls are vindictive, selfish, whiny, pretentious...all sorts of negative things. BUT then there's the rare 10% (coughcoughBrittanycough), the percentage of girls who are awesome and fun and not bitchy or gossipy. I'm on the lookout for that 10%. They're out there, somewhere.

Yamamoto's picture

They are not real, but you

They are not real, but you can keep telling yourself that :)... Frankly no girl is worth knowing... and are kind of better off dead...

That is why I am not friends with any of them anymore and never will be agian. Plus I am kind of going to not work for a women if I can help it :P I like to think of women as being a serperate speices...

To me you are not a girl... you are well... you don't have a sex... becuase we talk to each other through type and I have never seen your picture... you are simply genderless to me, and frankly if you did show me your picture we would stop talking... or at least I would be a hella lot more negative in your direction... though I love you anyway radio *Huggles*

Thought frankly I am alot like your friend. I would galdly except a abusive relationship, though for me it is more of the fact that I just want a relationship... so that I can pretend I have someone who loves me in that way. I don't care about anything, and maybe I can give some sex form them too. Plus after I get bored with them if they are a abusive boyfriend.... well at that point I get the fun of ruining someones life by calling the cops and sending his ass to jail... becuase I can promise there will be marks on me :D It will be so funny, and frankly I can't wait to do it to my roomates.

GOD DAMN I HATE PEOPLE SO MUCH I JUST LOVE WACTHING THEM DANCE LIKE LITTLE FUNNY PUPPETS IN MY PALM!!!!!!!!!! :)

radiosilence95's picture

*Face palm*

Not gonna get sucked into this. All I know is that I've met a few girls that are NOT skanky or bitchy. I have a gigantic crush on an awesome girl right now, so I know they exist. Maybe not in your little world, but in my world.

Yup, I'm a girl, picture or no picture. And I'm not a skanky vindictive dramatic bitch, believe it or not. I'm not genderless just because we've never seen each other, broski. Hate to tell you that. I'm a female :P

Eh. If you would really choose an abusive relationship over being alone, then that's your preference. And that DOES sound a lot like my friend, actually. That's weird. You're not my best friend in disguise, are you? :P

Yamamoto's picture

Sorry for my world not being

Sorry for my world not being big... I don't have a car... or a way to get around. Not really my fault :( So don't be a fucking asshole to me over it... some people have tons of money to by thier kids cars... other people don't... like my parents... they are spending all there money sending me to college... so show a little fucking respect... and don't be a asshole toward situations that you don't understand.

radiosilence95's picture

That's not what I meant. I

That's not what I meant. I meant the states and towns we live in, bro. My world is really small too, actually. I don't get around much either. I didn't mean to offend you. Sorry. Forgive me? <3

Yamamoto's picture

Sure I forgive you *Huggles*

Sure I forgive you *Huggles* But I am still mad at you about it... I will have to sleep on it to get rid of my anger :(

RainbowTime's picture

i think it depends on where you live

all the females i know about my age are not like this i only know i proper bitch and thats my mum

i only drink irn bru and the occassional blood of my enemies

Lehcure's picture

I had a friend like that in

I had a friend like that in high school. Everything was about her and her skanky relationship failures. Long story short, we didn't stay friends much longer when high school ended.
I agree with elph, certainly there are healthier friendship opportunities. In any case, I'm glad you stood up for yourself! Some people need that kind of message to get a hint, and I really hope she comes around and starts being more considerate.
As for you being single, your positive personality traits may play a role at the present . . . but that's because high school is make believe land. You're obviously more realistic and ideal when it comes to how to act in a relationship, and the others are still catching on..Your qualities will be appreciated soon enough, those chicks just gotta grow up. Once they get their heart broken by assholes a few timss, they will finally be enlightened of how amazing sweet people are!

Anyway, I hope your break starts looking up, you deserve it.

Yamamoto's picture

Hate to tell you kid... that

Hate to tell you kid... that never happens... I have seen these so called girls who have had thier hearts broken a by a few assholes, and frankly they are still doing the same damn thing. In my opintion about 90% of the women are actually the stupid things on the face of the earth when it comes to relationship common sense. So they deserve getting there ass beat because they just keep walking back to it... and frankly I hope it kills them... becuase that is what is going to happen. Which is why I find when people get killed by demestotic abuse to be the funniest thing... becuase most of the time it was there own damn fault. Trust me... I know, becuase my dad is currently a victim of it and he still won't get out and I know he could kick the ass of that fat women... so yeah I mean I don't feel sorry for people like that... I laugh at them.

Lehcure's picture

You can think people

You can think people suffering from domestic violence is funny. Have you ever heard of learned helplessness? It's an unfortunate psychological leash experienced by most animals . . . afterall, we are animals. So, go ahead and laugh at these animals, including your father, suffering from what nature has wired into them. But if you laugh now, don't complain when bullies laugh at you for what nature has wired into you.

Yamamoto's picture

Lehcure... you do understand

Lehcure... you do understand you are talking to someone who hates the human race... becuase of what they have done to me frankly I hate the human race, and really think it is funny when any of them suffer. I only dislike seeing animals suffer... and no I don't consider humans to be animals... becuase if we where actually animals... we wouldn't be doing the evil things that we do to each other.

And you better check yourself on what you are saying about the bullies and me getting laughed at... right now!!! In fact I want a apoligy sinice you seem to think it is so funny that I am getting bullied... is that what it is? You enjoy the fact I am getting bullied?

Lehcure's picture

I'm not apologizing because

I'm not apologizing because I never once said that I think it is funny that you are bullied. In all seriousness, it upsets me to know you're bullied. But it also upsets me to know you laugh at humans suffering. Because bullies laugh at humans suffering, and the last thing I want to do is think of you as a bully. Try breaking the cycle.
Animals aside from humans do "evil" things to each other, too. Haven't you ever seen the lion king :P. Just watch an animal documentary, you'll see.
Really though, humans are animals. We are classified within the animal kingdom. We may have evolved cognitive skills that make us appear unanimal, but we are animals. We are driven by the same things every animal is driven by. We've just made those biological drives more complicated. Don't be fooled though.

radiosilence95's picture

Oh, I have a feeling our

Oh, I have a feeling our friendship will fade slowly after high school. But I've learned a lot from it, so I have no regrets about knowing her. I have other friends, but they don't listen to me like she does. In fact, they never speak to me outside of school. She's the only friend of mine who texts me all the time, and listens to me, and knows that I'm gay, and doesn't judge me. I've made some new friends, but they're casual friends. ALL of my friends are casual friends. I have fun with them, but I could never talk to them about anything serious.

I don't think I'm gonna get a girl until college. But that's okay. It'll be well worth the wait. And thank you :)

Lehcure's picture

I had a friend like that in

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