Coming Out to Friends

MaddieJoy's picture

I have finally decided to come out to my best friend, and I was wondering what the best way to go about it is. I'm pretty sure she's not a homophobe, but it's still kind of nerve wracking to talk about it. Any tips for answering questions and/or staying calm? (I kind of bawled my eyes out when I came out to my mom)

RainbowTime's picture


answer honestly & think of a happy place :)

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jeff's picture

As is the case with many things...

How you tell someone often determines their reaction.

So, if you're crying and seem like you're telling them you have type-4 pancreatic cancer, they will be concerned and worried for you.

If you say, "You're important to me, so I wanted to let you know that I'm gay," and just make it just like basic information and no big deal, they will likely react better.

And if you do "I always was unsure what was going on with me, and I finally found out I'm gay and it's like a weight has been lifted off me, I'm happy, and couldn't wait to tell you, since you're a big part of my life," it'll be even better.

Or just wait until the next time you're about to censor yourself, and don't. Then you just switch to out without the dramatic "coming out" part.

"You can judge the whole world on the sparkle that you think it lacks" - Dawes, When My Time Comes (

MaddieJoy's picture

Thanks! That really helps.

Thanks! That really helps.