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radiosilence95's picture

I came out to my mom yesterday. She's suspected that I've been questioning my identity for awhile, she's just been too scared to say anything to me. She didn't want me to get mad at her for bringing it up. Ultimate irony, because I didn't say anything because I didn't want HER getting mad at ME. So for the past few months it's been the metaphorical elephant in the room.

I told her my feelings the best way I could. She, of course, wanted to me to keep an "open mind" about my sexuality. She said that maybe I'll meet a nice guy and fall in love. I told her I don't think so. She asked me how I know if I haven't really dated anyone. I told her it's just something I feel and know, just as she knew she was straight before she ever dated anyone. She said she just wants me to be happy. She said she's always imagined me with a nice guy and kids, but she'd gladly give up being a grandmother if it means keeping me happy.

She said she worries about my safety. If being out means compromising my safety. I told her no one in school would hurt me, not physically anyway. She suggested I wait until college to be out. I told her I'm not sure I can keep it to myself for an entire year.

She was very understanding. She doesn't see it as a bad thing, I don't think. Just as something that can be a challenge.

I took my ACT today. I think I did really well. The science part probably hurt me a bit, but I'm hopeful.


RainbowTime's picture

Great :)

im so happy that she took it that way and that took courage :D

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Dracofangxxx's picture

Wow I'm so happy for you!

Glad your mom was so awesome about it :'D
That's redick!

radiosilence95's picture

Yes. It was weird

Yes. It was weird how...anticlimactic the whole thing was. I expected tears and shame and disappointment and discomfort and bruised egos and slammed doors and denial. I got none of the above. I mean, we were both so...calm. And it was brought up so casually. Definitely not the soap opera I expected. Rather nice, really.

anarchist's picture

I would be jelly,

but I don't really care about my family not knowing. My mother is obsessed with my sister and me not being homosexual. She's made it very clear that she wants heterosexual children. The weird thing about this is she isn't even religious; she's agnostic. So I don't know why she's a homophobe.

radiosilence95's picture

Homophobia doesn't always

Homophobia doesn't always stem from religion, although that is usually where it comes from. Some people are homophobic because all relationships that cannot produce healthy children have been considered bad since the cavemen. People deem it unnatural, simply because gay couples can't have kids.

I also think that some people don't even know WHY they're homophobic. If you asked your mom why she hates gay people, she might just be like "Because it's weird!" In fact I think a lot of homophobes would say that. No real logical explanation, just ignorance.

MacAvity's picture


Scary part's over now, is it?

Lehcure's picture

Go you! That is good news :)

Go you! That is good news :)

radiosilence95's picture

Yes, I am pleasently

Yes, I am pleasently surprise that she's taken it so well. Probably because she's suspected for awhile. The weird thing is, she's more bothered by my being nonreligious than being gay. We had a conversation about both, and she kept going back to the topic of religion.

I really don't know what this means. Surely we'll have more conversations about this? Surely she'll continue to ask questions? Does this mean I can gush to her about Brittany without her getting weirded out? I dunno. One day at a time, I suppose.