I am a Foster Parent to a 14 year old girl. She has been in my and my husband's care for almost 6 months now... we love her very much :)
My daughter has to go to weekly therapy sessions, because of things that happened in her biological mothers home. As I was picking her up recently from therapy, her Therapist pulled me to the side. She told me that my daughter revealed to her that she was a LESBIAN!!
I was (am) in complete shock! Well... we did suspect that she was Gay, because of her masculine dress and ways... but to hear it confirmed... we are just torn about this.
My daughter feels like her privacy was violated by the Therapist... I'm glad the Therapist told me. My husband and I had a loooong talk with our daughter about prematurely placing "labels" on herself. Gay means your sexual preference... and if you haven't had Gay sex yet... how are you calling yourself GAY?! We advised her to live life first... and worry about labels later. We also told her that we love her, and that she is free to be whoever she wants to be, and that we would love her no matter who or what she decided to be (tear).
BUT.... I can't help but be disturbed by this news! My husband and I are very religious people. We are Jehovah's Witnesses and believe that being Gay is a perversion of God's original plan for a man and woman (I am NOT trying to offend anyone). After reading a lot of the posts on this website, I NOW understand that sometimes being Gay is not a choice.
How do I help my daughter with what she is going through without offending her? There is nothing anyone could ever say to me to convince me that being Gay is "ok". I strongly feel that homosexuality is against nature. However, I now know that sometimes people cant help but to feel the way they feel... I blame it on our imperfect state.
I am not prejudice, I am not homophobic. I call myself a Christian... and Christ loved ALL people... so who am I not to have love for my neighbor? But I do know that God said certain people would NOT inherit His Kingdom or be in His paradise.... that's just a biblical FACT.
MY QUESTION: How does a loving religious mother accept/adjust to the fact that her daughter is Gay?