I don't have any bi or lesbian friends, but I don't see why not, especially if she isn't my type. That would be like saying straight girls and straight guys can't be friends. Personally, I know I'm very picky, and on the other person's side, I can't see anyone wanting weird little me :p

Haha, that video, I am so bad at being a lesbian! Except D.E.B.S. I love that movie.

I love the bass in the background.
Why does it seem like there are so many stereotypical lesbians here and all the gays are far from the stereotypes?

I don't know about on here since I can't mentally visualize people well without seeing what they look like, but on Tumblr there do seem to be a little more stereotypical lesbians than there are stereotypical gay guys. Sometimes I kind of feel out of place there since I'm definitely much more femme than the stereotype, but then I figure that most people aren't 110% stereotypical or non-stereotypical, that most people are just kind of in between, you know? My friend who's a gay guy, for example, loves art and theater, but he is clueless on the topic of fashion. On the flip side, there's me, the lesbian who refuses to ever cut her hair shorter than shoulder length, whose favorite colors are pink and purple, who has a penchant for all things sickeningly cute. I had to think for a moment about any stereotypical thing I might have, but apparently owning lots of cats is gay and I have 3 cats. Oh, and there was a brief period in which I was an ultra tomboy when I was 7 or 8.

I think it is definitely possible to have platonic relationships among lesbians, although I definitely think it can be a little bit more complicated to navigate, especially before you have really gotten completely used to your identity.

I have had platonic lesbian friends for quite a long time, although some of them had feelings involved at one point or another on various ends, but this has happened with some of my best friends, and our friendships are completely platonic now. I think a lot of times, especially in high school, it can be really easy to try to jump on any relationship opportunity you come across, because your options are in fact quite limited in high school. I also think that a lot of times, it can be easier to be platonically friends with lesbians when you are in a relationship though.

That said, now that I am in college, and live in a LGBT theme dorm, it would be pretty crazy if single lesbians couldn't be friends, because you know, that could just get very bad, very quickly. I have not been single for longer than a month or so in over 3 years now, but I have been single for little bits, and I had plenty of perfectly platonic lesbian friends, who I have no interest in.

This topic brings up kind of an interesting point though. I think even more than it just being hard for young lesbians to have platonic relationships with each other, it can also be hard for them to have platonic friendships.

I am sure this is different for everyone, but I know that when I was younger I had a really difficult time with friendships, because it was so difficult to sort out whether or not there was an attraction thing going on or not. I was always a gentleman about the whole thing, and I really didn't want to be creepy or whatnot if I liked someone who was straight or something, so I ended up not getting very close to anyone at all, but I just remember how complicated it was to navigate that sort of thing. It ends up being a lot easier for people who aren't queer, because there is that line between genders, where girls are the safe zone for platonic stuff, and guys are the potential lovers. With queer girls, guys aren't safe for platonic relationships, because they might like you, straight girls aren't safe because you might like them(also don't understand how you feel about girls), and gay girls, actually understand how you feel about girls, but the there is even more danger of it not being platonic. Gay guys are safe, but there isn't a lot of common ground sometimes. It kind of puts you in a position where you have to figure out the line between platonic and not for every person you befriend, which can be a lot of uncertainty.

Has anyone else noticed this at all? I struggled with those thought a lot in middle school, and some of high school, and the habits I formed from it have stuck with me a lot longer than that. I don't really know if that is more of a "the weird ways I think" thing, or a universal, but I always noticed it. If anyone is struggling with that stuff now, know that those things get a lot easier as you get older and more mature, and the nature of friendships change. Middle school and high school interactions are kind of tough that way.

Total can do untill they get a girlfriend who is a prison guard and is very over protective scary