cutting the meat like a man

oliver's picture

Easter was fun, but my father-in-law was a bit of an ass... I think.
The problem is I'm not sure, his sarcasm tone isn't that distinct from his sincere tone since he's fairly cranky all the time.

It was time to cut the ham and he said something to the order of, "well it has to be a man to cut the meat and I'm not going to do it because I have a headache... that means you have to do it!" and then when I said I didn't want to because I don't know anything about how to cut the meat he said, "well if you want to be a man you have to do it!"

Which is kinda cool. It means he's socializing me as male.
But it also comes with sexist bullshit that I'm not ok with.


(moment of wrath required)

I am EXTREMELY against gender social pressure. It's simply not ok. Even if it's made for the flavor I want. It's still not ok.

Also he made other comments about "real men" not liking embroidery (I LOVE embroidery) that really pissed me off.

a) I'm not that kind of man. I'm femme, and very happy to be femme. I don't give a flying fuck about sports, tools, etc. and I don't feel I have to in order to get to be a man.

b) Chill out on all the pressure! Even if I was that kind of man, I think it's wrong to say things like this because there are lots of different kinds of men. Gender pressure is pretty much the same as gender bullying to me, and I'm not ok with it.

But I did cut the meat. I did it while grumbling about how it doesn't make me a man, but I did it. Probably because I love my mother-in-law. <3


elph's picture


... is quite easily learned.

But, (sadly) you may find "beating" to be a tad more challenging...

MacAvity's picture


Don't you have to be married in order to have parents-in-law?

Call me sexist, but I'm okay with some of those things that men are supposed to do, like cutting the meat or not having absurd numbers of shoes or dueling to defend fair lady's honor. I know I'm sexist. But whatever.

jeff's picture


If your biggest beef (beef, get it?) is that you're being accepted as male improperly, that's pretty good.

Of course, real men are vegan.

"You can judge the whole world on the sparkle that you think it lacks" - Dawes, When My Time Comes (

Tycoondashkid's picture

real men aint vegan jeff ;)

think about it the most butch nations eat almost no plants, maybe thats why america is so whiney

jeff's picture


That's kinda the point, though. Butch <> real man.

Plus, America is FAR from vegan.

"You can judge the whole world on the sparkle that you think it lacks" - Dawes, When My Time Comes (

Tycoondashkid's picture


is way more vegan than Scotland will ever be, our diet is consisted around Meat, Seafood of all Kinds & Eggs its rare to find a vegetarian meal in Scotland the only truly Vegetarian food we have are a couple types of food, Cereal and Porridge

anarchist's picture

Pretty much the only things I eat that aren't based on those are

pasta, potatoes, and salad.

Tycoondashkid's picture

the only thing non meat here

is tatties & pot noodles

Yamamoto's picture

Ah Oliver... A man after my

Ah Oliver... A man after my own heart... at least in this regeard :D