Easter was fun, but my father-in-law was a bit of an ass... I think.
The problem is I'm not sure, his sarcasm tone isn't that distinct from his sincere tone since he's fairly cranky all the time.
It was time to cut the ham and he said something to the order of, "well it has to be a man to cut the meat and I'm not going to do it because I have a headache... that means you have to do it!" and then when I said I didn't want to because I don't know anything about how to cut the meat he said, "well if you want to be a man you have to do it!"
Which is kinda cool. It means he's socializing me as male.
But it also comes with sexist bullshit that I'm not ok with.
AND HOW DARE YOU SAY I HAVE TO DO ANYTHING IN ORDER TO BE A MAN?!?
(moment of wrath required)
I am EXTREMELY against gender social pressure. It's simply not ok. Even if it's made for the flavor I want. It's still not ok.
Also he made other comments about "real men" not liking embroidery (I LOVE embroidery) that really pissed me off.
a) I'm not that kind of man. I'm femme, and very happy to be femme. I don't give a flying fuck about sports, tools, etc. and I don't feel I have to in order to get to be a man.
b) Chill out on all the pressure! Even if I was that kind of man, I think it's wrong to say things like this because there are lots of different kinds of men. Gender pressure is pretty much the same as gender bullying to me, and I'm not ok with it.
But I did cut the meat. I did it while grumbling about how it doesn't make me a man, but I did it. Probably because I love my mother-in-law. <3