Dammit, Stop Touching Me! or, Am I Being Harassed?

MaddieJoy's picture

So this girl at rehearsal is really starting to get on my nerves. She's always stroking my hair and kicking my butt and slapping me (not very hard) and it's very annoying. I'm really passive ever since I got in all these fights in early grade school, so I tried to ignore her, but that just sends her off on these rants about how I ignore her so much. Here's the most recent episode, during a choreography rehearsal:
Her: (putting arm around my shoulders)"Oh my god, are you ignoring me?"
Me: (wriggling away) Silence
Her: (slapping my back) "You always ignore me!"
Me: (small smirk, maybe she'll go away) silence
Her: (to girl on my other side) "She keeps ignoring me!" (puts her arm around my neck and squeezes)
Girl: "Sammy, come on..."
Me: (breaking away) silence, but in my head, "knock it off! I don't even know you! we've been in one play together and we're not friends. STOP TOUCHING ME!"
I've told my parents about a few of these incidents and my dad is very agitated about it but he's always agitated so that doesn't really mean anything. But I've started to wonder if maybe she actually IS harassing me. If so, should I say something? Ignoring her obviously isn't doing anything. Maybe next time I should tell her what I'm thinking, but when I do that I usually end up getting really worked up and I don't want to get in trouble, especially since I think my director is ticked off at me for something else.
Help!

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radiosilence95's picture

Simple. Tell her to stop. Be

Simple. Tell her to stop. Be pleasant about it at first, but if she doesn't quit then be assertive. If things don't improve, get your director or some adult involved. As a last resort, of course. But I think just telling her about it would do some good.

MaddieJoy's picture

Thanks

"It's a helluva start, knowing what makes you happy."
--Lucille Ball

MaddieJoy's picture

Oh, i forgot to mention--she

Oh, i forgot to mention--she made a comment baout my "small boobs" as well.

"It's a helluva start, knowing what makes you happy."
--Lucille Ball

jeff's picture

Well...

You could ask: Is that why that's about the only part of me you don't touch? ;-)

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"You can judge the whole world on the sparkle that you think it lacks" - Dawes, When My Time Comes (http://youtu.be/Z0FrcTX6hWI)

MaddieJoy's picture

Good one!

...But I think I may have gotten rid of her. I kind of snapped a little today when she started treating me like her personal assistant. She told me to hold her phone and I said "can't you just put it down on your chair?" and she left it in my hand, so I set it on her chair. Then she told me to get her when it was time for our scene, and I didn't. I think she got the message: You touch me, I don't do tasks for you.
This whole thing has made me think, though. It's not the first time my passiveness has got me in trouble. And next time someone might actually be aggressively sexually harrassing me, not just poking at me. So I'm gonna work on being more vocal, and hopefully this won't happen again.

"It's a helluva start, knowing what makes you happy."
--Lucille Ball