"Passing" and A Side of Bleach

centerfielder08's picture

The term "passing" is when someone is seen as the gender that they want to be read as, aka, they "pass" as a different gender. I don't like this word so much in this sense because then it seems like it's all a game, some sort of evil scheme--a deception or something of the sort.

However, it's a lot easier to say that rather than explain the whole thing every time. So I don't know. I won't get disgusted when people use the term 'passing'. I just don't like it, but it's a personal thing. I don't think that everyone in the trans* community, for example, needs to agree with me. I'm just stating my own opinion.

Today was the first day of one of my summer classes. And like the first day of any class, I wore extremely bright, stand-out-colored clothes. So going by all the "passing" tips on YouTube for trans*guys, I was clearly NOT going to pass. I wore a bright, fluorescent orange zip-up sweatshirt and a bright purple shirt underneath. I didn't bind.

In the one class I had today, the professor was asking people to introduce themselves and when it was our turn, he would put to us and say "ma'am" or "sir," in order to indicate the person who was going next. He did that for everyone. Except me. He looked at me and I don't know if he hesitated or not, but he didn't say "ma'am" or "sir." This made me so unbelievably happy.

It goes to show that you don't have to be a certain way to fit any sort of label. Just be yourself. It sounds self-explanatory and cheesy, but it helps me to think of this because so often I blame my non-"passing" on the fact that I don't follow what so many other trans*guys say are the "musts" in order to pass.

(More to come about "passing" in a future journal--maybe tomorrow's, which will also mention androgyny and sense of self/identification?) (Or tomorrow I may, instead, write about gender and having a job and whether or not the two coincide at all or interact ever.)

And for the side of bleach?

Long story short, I started bleaching my teeth. It hurts like hell and is so painful. But I have to keep doing it 'til the 24th or something to get the effect, apparently.

Anyone have any good tips?

Thanks and hoping you all are having an okay (at least!) day.

~Eli.

Comments

lonewolf678's picture

I have teeth tips.

Stop bleaching your teeth. Just use whitening tooth-paste, something safe that doesn't destroy anything. The hurting and pain does not mean it's working, it means it's harming your body.

centerfielder08's picture

No no no no no, I'm not

No no no no no, I'm not administering this. I mean, I'm not doing this on my own. I'm doing it under the care of a highly-trained dentist. It hurts because it's a high level of whatever it is that they use to bleach the teeth.

No, I don't like how it hurts.

But my teeth are getting whiter and if I stop now, I....nevermind.

I promise, I'm not doing this to harm my body. It's not like I'm doing this to hurt myself.

Tycoondashkid's picture

You know Dentests have a safer and painless way of whitning teet

And its a one time thing too, they lie you down put some googles on ya keep your mouth open and turn on a big light so it zaps your teeth white or something and you usually get a TV to watch, just go to a big Dentist

jeff's picture

Actually...

Those are lower dosage and require several visits to get results. Stuff from dentists hurts more, but is safe. I've used it. You get custom molded trays for your own teeth and all.

The goggles and the blue light places are typically not staffed by dentists.

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"You can judge the whole world on the sparkle that you think it lacks" - Dawes, When My Time Comes (http://youtu.be/Z0FrcTX6hWI)

lonewolf678's picture

Hmm,

well if it be your will to do the teeth bleaching I can't stop you. It just seems dangerous to me.

radiosilence95's picture

I have a question.

Why do people type trans* with that little asterisk? What purpose does that serve exactly? Is it somehow offensive if I exclude that asterisk? Just curious.

centerfielder08's picture

THESE ARE NOT MY WORDS. THE

THESE ARE NOT MY WORDS. THE FOLLOWING IS FROM http://youknowyouretrans.tumblr.com/FAQ

"Trans* is taken generally to mean: Transgender, Transsexual, genderqueer, Non-Binary, Genderfluid, Genderfuck, Intersex, Third gender, Transvestite, Cross-dresser, Bi-gender, Trans man, Trans woman, Agender and further gender expressions that we may not be aware of, whereas ‘trans’ could have been taken to mean the blog only applies to trans men and trans women. We wanted more people to feel included in submitting posts and the blog as a whole."

I think this does a very good job explaining it.

Me personally, I'm not mad when someone just writes trans, but I do find it to be non-inclusive and I much prefer trans*, however, it's usually not a big deal to me. (For some this may be a huge deal, for others maybe not a deal at all)

radiosilence95's picture

Oh.

Gotchya. That makes sense. Also, what do genderfluid, genderfuck, intersex, and third gender mean?

jeff's picture

Hmm...

I'm sticking with trans. If see an asterisk, I'm looking for an explanation further down.

It is strange that all gays are mostly fine with gay, but then after that, the smaller the population, the more names they need? (To be fair, bi's have a ton of words too, and one imagines they are a larger population than gay).

I do think that if an asterisk becomes a big deal in your life, you're trying to make your life difficult.

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"You can judge the whole world on the sparkle that you think it lacks" - Dawes, When My Time Comes (http://youtu.be/Z0FrcTX6hWI)

centerfielder08's picture

Haha, yeah, the asterisk is

Haha, yeah, the asterisk is cool.
But I think that it's one of those things where you really have to realize you have to pick your battles.

An asterisk is not as important for me (not nearly so) as, say, getting the right pronouns.

I just mean that if I have the option, I'd probably choose trans* but it wouldn't shatter my world to see trans instead.