I took a small step coming out to a friend of mine over the weekend. Although the reaction I got wasn't bad, it left me scratching my head.
I told my friend Emily I was essentially gay and she couldn't seem to grasp the idea. In fact, her initial reaction was "nooo. Are you sure?"
I've known this girl for several years going back to high school. Of course, In high school I was still trying to be perceived as straight out of fear. I have a damn good idea of what would have transpired if I had come out then. Anyway, Emily did finally digest what I had told her and she did offer her support if I wanted to talk about it. Back then, and even now, I'm one of those straight-acting/appearing guys you'd never know was gay. I suppose it would be more to my benefit to be effeminate, but that isn't me. Please don't misunderstand either, I have no problem with effeminate men, but my attraction is for someone similar to myself. I know there are lots of people in the same situation, but they are so hard to find.