A boy

Uncertain's picture

Met a boy. He is cute. Should've been more forward. Not sure if he was keen. We talked for ages though. We talked about so much. He is really cute. I have a chronic fear of rejection that it probably almost becomes self-fulfiling. I always rationalise and think if someone's right for me it'll happen anyway. It's probably weird thinking about this, but I hope he's not the type that sleeps around with randoms (too much). I probably just rambled and rambled at him. It's probably best that nothing happens, the whole thing scares me, but wow I haven't felt like this about a guy for ages. Like, heart-racing-nervous-I-want-you kind of feeling instead of just yeah-he's-hot-I-would-do-him, you know?

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elph's picture

I hope...

...you will be meeting again?

You deserve someone that matches that fondest image you hold for him... whether he's "it" or not!

Uncertain's picture

Urgh.

Urgh.

elph's picture

My best attempt at translation...

says that you are irritated? But, with whom?

jeff's picture

Hmm...

Sounds good. Move ahead with things... you deserve as much, babe

Less history, more mystery is a better approach when meeting new people.

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"You can judge the whole world on the sparkle that you think it lacks" - Dawes, When My Time Comes (http://youtu.be/Z0FrcTX6hWI)

Uncertain's picture

Yeah I thought so, I

Yeah I thought so, I completely messed that one up.

jeff's picture

Well...

If he's smitten, it really doesn't matter if you come off a bit adorkable in the interview process. Probably shows you're interested... ;-)

But, yeah, sexual history is sort of unimportant. Some people go through slut phases to find out they want to be monogamous. And, from a safety perspective, you're often way safer with someone who tricks around than with a serial monogamist.

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"You can judge the whole world on the sparkle that you think it lacks" - Dawes, When My Time Comes (http://youtu.be/Z0FrcTX6hWI)

Uncertain's picture

This is true. Except I

This is true. Except I couldn't really tell. I thought he was keen at some point, but I never "reciprocated" you know - to a point where I sort of just "ran away" to hang with other people then he decided to leave. Kind of retarded of me. If anything it was completely my fault because I sent off some really mixed signals. Argh, this is why I don't like liking someone because my mind freaks out and overanalyses.

jeff's picture

Well...

There's nothing to overanalyze: you fucked up. ;-)

You don't have to enter a long-term relationship with someone to show you're interested. Also not sure why he has to show you his before you'll show him yours, err, interest that is... Just a simple, "I'm enjoying talking with you, we should get together again sometime."

One hopes you have a way to contact him? And, if so, you will take the reins a bit and just say, "Sorry I kinda ditched you the other night. I hadn't been interested in someone for a while, so I kinda freaked out. Give me another chance?"

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"You can judge the whole world on the sparkle that you think it lacks" - Dawes, When My Time Comes (http://youtu.be/Z0FrcTX6hWI)

Uncertain's picture

GOD YOU MAKE SO MUCH SENSE I

GOD YOU MAKE SO MUCH SENSE I SWEAR MY MIND SHORT CIRCUITS SOMETIMES

Yeah we go to law school together so not all hope is lost. We're also going to the same party next weekend, so maybe that's why I didn't have a sense of urgency because I'm pretty sure I'll see him again and I didn't want to come across as too keen. That's kind of what I meant by "if it's going to happen it will probably happen"

But no matter how I put it, I was still a muptard tonight.

jeff's picture

Well...

You still have an opportunity to turn your muptardedness into flattery, if you just say that enjoying his company kind of frazzled you a bit, since you hadn't felt like that about anyone for a while.

If you say something like that in e-mail or somesuch in advance of your next meeting, you already:
- flatter him
- play your hand a bit in advance
- get to write an e-mail the way you want it to read, so that you don't stress about saying it in person or stumble over it, etc.
- get to relax a bit more in person when you do meet, since your interest is "out there" already.

Also, I don't know this boy, but it is hard to imagine someone not wanting you to be too keen on them, unless he's into girls or something. "Yuck, a smart, hot, compassionate, interesting classmate with an amazing future ahead of him is interested in me. Gross..."

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"You can judge the whole world on the sparkle that you think it lacks" - Dawes, When My Time Comes (http://youtu.be/Z0FrcTX6hWI)

Uncertain's picture

Thanks Jeff...

Seriously, I've been out of the game for SO long. All this used to be intuitive for me, I honestly have no idea what's going on. MEH. Also, have exam on Monday... oh jesus my head hurts. Really shouldn't have gone out... but it was a fun night. Spent so much money though.

jeff's picture

Yikes...

When does your school year end?!

No worries. Glad to help. Good luck on the exam and the boy.

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"You can judge the whole world on the sparkle that you think it lacks" - Dawes, When My Time Comes (http://youtu.be/Z0FrcTX6hWI)