What if you don't fit a steriotype?

BritannaForever's picture

Everyone has told me that to be a lesbian you have to have short hair, be into sports, and dress in pants and a T-Shirt. So I did some research and found that even though there are people like that, there's also lesbians who prefer skirts and dresses and have long hair and don't like sports. The terms for those are femme and butch. I don't feel like I fit either of those categories and I've been wondering if there are even that many lesbians out there that are like me and feel like they don't fit either category. I guess I want to know what category do all you girls fit into or not fit into?? Let's start a discussion on this one. Thanks guys,
Jasmine :)

MacAvity's picture


Nobody has to fit into any of the stereotypes. That's one of the things we're always dealing with here - people showing up and saying Waaah, I'm not any of the gay stereotypes and all the gay stereotypes bully me for it and I'm just a normal person who happens to be gay and waah stereotypes!, and we tell them, eh, nobody has to fit into any of the stereotypes, and they keep just going Waah, stereotypes!

So yeah. Just express however you want. Just 'cause you're gay doesn't mean you have to act like anyone's idea of a lesbo.

Welcome to Oasis, by the way.

radiosilence95's picture

I can totally relate. I'm

I can totally relate. I'm not the sporty butch and I'm not the girly femme either. And I really couldn't care less. You shouldn't worry about that sort of thing. It drives me crazy when people put so much pressure on themselves to fit into a certain category or stereotype. I dress and carry myself a certain way because it's just, y'know, who I am and what I'm comfortable with. It's that simple.

Super Duck's picture

It's okay if you do or don't

It's okay if you do or don't fit into any stereotypes, everyone's different. Don't listen to people who are telling you that you either have to be super butch or super femme. It's okay to just be in between. Personally, though, I am more femme, but that's just me.

jeff's picture


Aside from Mexicans being lazy, stereotypes are for the most part untrue.

Also, if you're the lesbian in this equation, I think your job is to just be yourself and show them what a lesbian is like, that is how they learn, not the other way around.

So, just do what feels natural, and for you, that is how a lesbian acts.

"You can judge the whole world on the sparkle that you think it lacks" - Dawes, When My Time Comes (http://youtu.be/Z0FrcTX6hWI)

BritannaForever's picture

Thanks for the feedback

Hey guys! Thank you for your wonderful comments. It has really helped me think. I'm really starting to like Oasis by the way!
Bye for now,
Jasmine :)

Sam2000's picture

Stereotypes serve no use

Stereotypes serve no use other than enslaving you to live a way other than what you really are.

Gay guys deal with the same thing, like I can't love metal because I'm gay...I've been into metal since before I knew I was gay, nothing's going to change either!


swimmerguy's picture

If you don't fit stereotypes

you don't fit stereotypes, it's no big thing one way or the other.


elph's picture

The whole concept of stereotypes...

...is usually invoked (especially for LGBT) when one is looking for a characteristic that may stand up to objective criticism.

Or... am I being just a bit overly cynical?

Be your own unique self, not one who others think you should be!