The many-tentacled Facebook...

elph's picture

This is a very cautionary tale for all devoted denizens of Facebook:

"2 Texas College Students Outed by Facebook Loophole"

Unlike Oasis which is not-for-profit, Facebook is strictly for profit... and you may be assured that any obscure device that will increase their share value will be exploited.

Its rules and policies (particularly those that apply to one's personal information) are inscrutable and constantly evolving.

Be cautious!

Don't let this happen to you... unless, of course, you don't really care! :(


btw: In the event you failed to discern this from the article, McCormick and Duncan were not an "item"... they were merely independent UT students who happened to both be gay... and were individually ensnared by just one of FB's many and far-reaching tentacles!

jeff's picture


This is a pretty obscure issue to be worried about. Plus, they were in college, time to be out anyway.

If anyone is really concerned about privacy on Facebook: don't friend your parents.

"You can judge the whole world on the sparkle that you think it lacks" - Dawes, When My Time Comes (

elph's picture

Obscure?... certainly not for the victims!

I do not assume that once a particular age or level of education is reached, a self-respecting gay should feel obligated ("time to be out") to openly declare his/her sexual orientation... particularly to one's parents!

From what respected source would one find such advice?

Clearly... on this issue we disagree!

No way can I lean back and sanctimoniously think, "Well, they could have avoided this embarrassment.... only if..."


It's much-too-easy to make an unintended "misstep" on Facebook!

jeff's picture


True. A self-respecting gay wouldn't need to be told to come out. ;-)

Once you're in your early 20s, you're closeted, NOT unable to come out because of other factors.

Dan Savage isn't a fan of closeted 20somethings, nor am I. I don't really go out of my way to keep track of anyone else who thinks this stuff.

As for it not being obscure for the victims? You can have an obscure form of cancer, and it is still real to you, and still something you have to deal with and it could have huge stakes. But it can still be obscure concern for the general population.

But at least I'm sanctimonious here and not just stating an opinion. At least I have that going for me.

"You can judge the whole world on the sparkle that you think it lacks" - Dawes, When My Time Comes (

elph's picture

I think we've both stated our views...

I have nothing further to add! :)


MaddieJoy's picture

u scared me

i thought the "loophole" let people see your "interested in" settings. b more specific in ur posts, i almost had a heart attack similar to the one that i thought my nanna had just had...
& jeff, not all people actually can or need to come out when they're 20. there are all sorts of "other factors" which can still make it unsafe. every situation is different.

The ducks will get you!

jeff's picture


I agree on "can" although these are truly the exceptions (when my friend started his gay yotuh website in the 90s, he talked to a kid whose father was the grand wizard in the Ku Klux Klan, so that's pretty extreme; as opposed to "my parents are religious" which is usually just a dodge), but on "need," I'll disagree. Even if you can't come out, your life would still be better if you could.... so they do need to come out, they just can't.

"You can judge the whole world on the sparkle that you think it lacks" - Dawes, When My Time Comes (