What's the point of all of this?

PokemonGeek's picture

I'm basically going to the dentist which is actually against my beliefs and my will. I'm only going because my sister is making me. I think flossing and brushing of the teeth is HIGHLY unnatural. And don't give me the "it promotes long life" BS either. John Adams lived to be 90 during a time where people usually died at age 50 and THEY didn't floss or brush their teeth. And have you EVER seen a gorrilla brush its teeth before? Of course not because it just isn't natural! And also why bother brushing my teeth if NO ONE want to date me or even REFUSE to communicate with me during the "getting to know each other stage" after TWO WEEKS and we never did ANYTHING except talk a bit?!!! Who am I trying to impress? I mean why waste the time and effort since no one even wants to talk to me after TWO WEEKS? I'm making out with plastic men now and you REALLY can't go any lower or MORE pathetic than that even IF you tried! I honestly believe all of what I just said.

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jeff's picture

Well...

You're allowed to have beliefs that do not support you retaining your teeth for your lifespan. And you're probably accurate that retaining one's teeth throughout their entire lifespan may not be natural.

Google sez: "The oral health of George Washington has been widely studied and written about. Not so, however, with our second president, John Adams, whose dental health was apparently poor throughout his life. His pernicious habit of inducing vomiting to treat various bodily ills, coupled with a great love of sweets, led to the loss of his teeth, which he stubbornly refused to replace with dentures. When he was older, this led to his speech being so badly affected, that he could barely be understood."

As for animals, they eat their natural diet, whereas humans do not.

The evidence of your undateability is heretofore unexplored, aside from repeating it. Do you know enough people? Do they all know you're gay? Do they all know you're available? Do you approach people? Lots of potential issues to unpack, although saying no one wants you is of course easy, since it puts the blame on everyone else.

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"You don't know you're beautiful." - Harry Styles

PokemonGeek's picture

Yes all the guys I TRY to

Yes all the guys I TRY to have a relationship know I'm gay. It's all on dating sites and they ALL STOP TALKING TO ME AFTER LITERALLY TWO WEEKS!!!!!!!!!!!!! TWO WEEKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It's happened at least fifteen, maybe twenty, times and the guy NEVER wants to have anything to do with me and all we ever did was TALK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THAT'S it!!!!!! I NEVER even got past the "getting to know you better" stage and they all refuse to communicate with me! I'm going to be 28 in April and I have NEVER even been on a date once in my entire life! I'm to the point that I'll take almost ANY guy that will talk to me and do whatever it takes to make sure HE will still talk to me for more than 14 days!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have a couple of limits but it REALLY isn't a lot. I'm THAT desperate now to NOT die alone. My friend killed herself in November and SHE felt the same way.

Poor is the man
Whose pleasures depend
On the permission of another
Love me, that's right, love me
I wanna be your baby
Wanting, needing, waiting
For you to justify my love
Hoping, praying
For you to justify my love
I'm open and ready
~Madonna

jeff's picture

OK...

But this may say more about dating websites than anything. I mean, when you say it doesn't go further, you are meeting them in real life, or it stays online and isn't progressing?

Clearly whatever you're doing isn't working, so what other options haven't you tried yet? Clubs? Speed dating? Gay social groups?

Well, if you don't want to die alone, and you're alone now, at least that rules out suicide as an option, lest it be a self-fulfilling prophecy. ;-)

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"You don't know you're beautiful." - Harry Styles

PokemonGeek's picture

Only ONE gay bar in my area

Only ONE gay bar in my area and even THERE no one wants me except some random drunk girl who is literally shoving my to get on the dance floor. Clubs and social groups are like two hours away from me where shootings are quite common and I do not wish to go to those areas for good reason. The only thing closest to a social group is PFLAG in my town but even there all the guys are taken.

Poor is the man
Whose pleasures depend
On the permission of another
Love me, that's right, love me
I wanna be your baby
Wanting, needing, waiting
For you to justify my love
Hoping, praying
For you to justify my love
I'm open and ready
~Madonna

jeff's picture

No to mention...

There is also being on the right site and positioning yourself properly. I mean, if you're on a cruisier site (adam4adam, etc.), and are showing people pics of your ass, etc., and then when they express interest, you want to talk and get to know them, then sure you're advertising one thing and selling another. I've known many people who wanted romance but tried to sell themselves as sex, so it never lined up.

The other issue is if every guy always flakes at the two week mark, then the constant in the equation is you. But again, that means a lot of what I've previously asked, are you advertising booty and selling a relationship, are you meeting them offline, there is a lot of nuance to online dating, not to mention offline dating... but the easy path is wondering what is wrong with them. What are you doing wrong? That's the part you can fix.

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"You don't know you're beautiful." - Harry Styles

PokemonGeek's picture

Not really trying to sell

Not really trying to sell myself. I'm using Okcupi.com and it's been horrible for me there.

Poor is the man
Whose pleasures depend
On the permission of another
Love me, that's right, love me
I wanna be your baby
Wanting, needing, waiting
For you to justify my love
Hoping, praying
For you to justify my love
I'm open and ready
~Madonna

elph's picture

It would be very difficult for any Oasie not to feel your angst

I know that I, at least, do...

But I suspect that definitions are in order:

Why don't you describe for us what you actually envisage the ideal "date" to consist of... for you!

I'm sure that you must have experienced social events that were enjoyable (no?)... but none could be considered a "date"?

Also... At 28, I might assume that you are no longer a university student. So, what is your daily routine now... doesn't it bring you in contact with others, who upon getting to know them socially might reveal that some have desires quite similar to yours?

What I'm suggesting is that you might be looking for lasting companionship in the wrong places... unless, of course, what such sites ultimately have in the offing is exactly what you're after...

Whatever you do... one thing is quite clear: You've got to try another tactic!

And... Good luck!

jazzybchick's picture

No offense but...

Yellow or nasty food-covered teeth, are pretty dang gross. I can't go a day without brushing or I'd lock myself up with floss, toothbrushes, toothpastes, and white strips. That's why no one will do anything but talk to you :x that's my opinion. You're 28? And you don't brush. Think about it. A life with dentures lol. Ew.
-Chapin is my name. Don't wear it out ;)

elph's picture

Yeah! I knew that I should have said this as well...

but...

PokemonGeek's picture

And you honestly do not see

And you honestly do not see how unnaturally freakish it is to shove a piece of string in between your teeth? Also, teeth aren't supposed to be naturally white. It's just another one of the forced ideas the media shoves down people's throats and makes them believe it's true. Just like how they mainly portray skinny people as "healthy" and anyone over weight even in the slightest bit as a source of constant criticism and ridicule and how the male frontal nudity is unappropriate unless it adds drama or comic effect but allows women to be compleletely naked the entire time in a movie with full frontal and all. Do you see where I'm going with this?

Poor is the man
Whose pleasures depend
On the permission of another
Love me, that's right, love me
I wanna be your baby
Wanting, needing, waiting
For you to justify my love
Hoping, praying
For you to justify my love
I'm open and ready
~Madonna

elph's picture

Actually... I suspect you may be...

just "pulling our legs."

I have great difficulty in taking your view seriously... You're just teasing... right?

Could you cite any reputable source that defends your quite-idiosyncratic view on the care of one's gums and teeth?

And... how do you feel about the offensive breath from one who does not maintain good dental health?

PokemonGeek's picture

It is a well known fact

It is a well known fact Clark Gable had bad breath and yet people STILL find him to be one of the sexist actors in Hollywood history.

Poor is the man
Whose pleasures depend
On the permission of another
Love me, that's right, love me
I wanna be your baby
Wanting, needing, waiting
For you to justify my love
Hoping, praying
For you to justify my love
I'm open and ready
~Madonna

elph's picture

And... what do you wish Oasies™ to conclude?

Are you suggesting that such anecdotal accounts should be given elevated credence when it comes to making decisions that have an effect on one's health?

Or... is being sexy all that's really important?

I still remain with the lingering thought that you can't be serious...

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btw: What did your dentist say? You did follow your sister's recommendation?

Bosemaster42's picture

Uh Yeah,

You certainly have a right to do what you wish with regard to dental hygiene, however, poor dental care=you will lose your teeth and friends to boot. Some people won't necessarily be bluntly honest with you about the appearance of your teeth or bad breath. People will not get near you for that very reason. You're correct about teeth not being perfectly white, nor do they have to be. Plaque build-up is pretty obvious and frankly disgusting.
Just brushing your teeth and seeing a dentist once a year is all that's required to keep your teeth healthy, but there are exceptions.

jazzybchick's picture

Well...

I really don't think you should compare people to monkeys. Because we weren't monkeys in the past. As much as science says that, it's all lies. You can have jacked up teeth for all I care. How do your teeth have anything to do with overweight people or skinny people? Lol. Yellow teeth=no friends. White nice teeth=friends and possibly more dates. Simple. Easy. Get common sense yeah?
-Chapin is my name. Don't wear it out ;)

radiosilence95's picture

Hmmm...

Dental hygiene is more of a cosmetic issue than anything. I'm fairly certain that not brushing your teeth or flossing isn't life-threatening or detrimental to your overall health in any way (I could be proven wrong). So, if you're adamant that you don't want to take care of your teeth, that's entirely your decision.

BUT as much as I would like to bullshit you about how nobody will ever judge you for that, it's just a simple fact of life that we judge each other based on appearances, and take it from there. I may come to like someone for what's on the inside, but it takes a physical first impression to get to the point where I actually want to know their interior. To put this harshly, if you're out and about, other men will notice your rotting teeth, your bad breath...and that's all they'll notice. It'll be such a distraction, such a turn-off, that they won't pay attention to anything deeper than your dental health.

Just something to keep in mind. Not brushing your teeth is kind of like not washing your hair...either one is completely up to the person, but ultimately it doesn't make much sense. What statement are you trying to make by not taking care of certain parts of your body? To be blunt, it's going to repulse people. It may keep a guy from talking to you in the future. It's only an obstacle for you.