This is so sad:
"The gay Catholic who has refused to have sex his whole life"
no existence is pointless.
I agree... no existence is pointless, and frankly I find it sad that people frown on him for his choice. If the guy doesn't want to have sex then so fucking what... it is like a straight person doing the same thing. Seesh... elph you are connecting the having of sex, to the pointlessness of ones existence. That is actually the cause behind most of my porn addiction, suicide attempts, and depression... is that single assumption and jealously that because I can't get anyone to screw me only enforces my thoughts on being a bad person. So like hell am I going to let you slam someone for choosing not to have sex.... I mean it is like you slamming me because I can't have sex, and I don't want to hear any smart remarks about how I can, because no I can't... Not at least without raping someone at this point.
I think the issue is more about the reasons this guy isn't having sex, that "The Bible" told him it's a sin, etc., that makes it pointless. So, I interpret it as more of an anti-religious statement than how you're interpreting it.
"You don't know you're beautiful." - Harry Styles
An anti-religious statement is just as bad, and in fact hypocritical. If that is what someone believes then you don't really have the right to tell them otherwise, despite the fact you believe differently... I mean anti- whatever just breeds more problems than it solves. I hope I am getting what I trying to say through, but I guess a simpler way to say it would be that everyone should be nice to each other. And if the other people are not being nice, then just keep being nice back. But seriously, hearing you say that elph is kind of mean...
I doubt I will ever be able to get my argument out properly in the manner that it is in my head, so you can't shoot it down because I normally have the problem of expressing my ideas on paper... so in the end it hardly matters.
Anti-religion is just meaningless hatred and judgement, the two things I can't stand in interactions between people.
Shit, I'm bad at this, too.
I think my life is pretty pathetic to be quite honest. I make out with GI Joes and Ken dolls. It's pretty sad when the ONLY guys you can get and won't pretend you don't exist two weeks later are literally plastic. I have gotten to the point that I wasted six months waiting for someone to call me and TWO uears realizing my friend will never like me like I like him. I mean it took me FOUR years to get over Heath Ledger's death! My life has pretty much hit rock bottom and I can also recite The Divinyls "I Touch Myself" by verbatim. Yeah, I that far gone....
Poor is the man
Whose pleasures depend
On the permission of another
Love me, that's right, love me
I wanna be your baby
Wanting, needing, waiting
For you to justify my love
For you to justify my love
I'm open and ready
Being a virgin or single, or whatever petty bullshit isn't as important as society makes it seem. Just remember that having sex won't make you a different person, and you'll be just the same after the experience as you are now. There's no need to worry about it.
Now being lonely is different, but based on your description it sounds like that isn't what's bothering you right now.
I'd say living with depression, social disorders, or severe deformities would be much more hopeless than life without sex. Sex is only a very minuscule part of anyone's life besides addicts and prostitutes. I don't see how a life without sex would even be pointless at all. About as pointless as being lactose intolerant maybe.
For some people (such as myself) sex is actually an important way to interact with people. It's a deeply emotional experience that some people (such as myself) tend to share with people they care about. Not that sex is an important part of everyone's lives (I am intimately familiar with several asexual aromantic people), I just find your idea that only addicts and prostitutes include sex as important somewhat suspect. No offense intended, but perhaps you should rethink your opinion on that, because it's a rather judgmental statement that might alienate people with differing values.
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"When an outcome is prescribed, all choices must inevitably lead to that outcome. If there is a Plan, what does that mean for free will?"
That is pretty much sums me up. I mean literally EVERY GUY I meet eventually stops talking to me after a month! On POF TWO guys I was talking to unregistered AFTER talking to me for like two weeks! It keeps happening over and over. Now I think I'll end up SO clingy because each time a new guy talks to me I literally think, "We'll be together forever and ever and ever and ever and ever and EVER!" When I think it, I think it in a really creepy stalker type voice like the "I WON'T BE IGNORED!!!!" movie quote. Last time a guy did it to me my therapist became so worried about my mental state that she said "I won't have to 302 you, will I?"
Sounds like me and you have quite a bit in common with our relationship problems Pokémon, though mine always seem to die faster than yours. :(
But no existence is pointless. Because he has chosen to live his life a certain way doesnt make him any less important to the world. Perhaps he will help many people find peace within themselves while doing so for himself.
a psychotic pencilist, moe