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Ann's picture

I’m starting to wonder if I’m just an outsider by nature, and if that’s ever going to change. I was sort of hanging out with friends today, but I felt kind of invisible because I wasn’t participating in the conversation. I’m just really introverted and live in my head a lot. If I could just get the hang of finding some common interests and carrying conversations. Unfortunately, this made me think of Beth, because I could always talk to Beth about anything so easily.
One of my friends, April, is going through something, but I have no idea what. She generally acts depressed and glum. I try to ask what’s wrong, but she won’t tell me. I try to comfort her, and she just snaps at me. I think part of the problem, if not all the problem, is her parents. They’re just not very emotional, and April is. I just wish I knew how to make this better for her, but she won’t let me.
I’ve been thinking about coming out to some female friends, but I don’t know. I’ve read a fair few of stories about lesbians or bi girls coming out to their female friends, and their female friends acting weird. I don’t want them to assume I’m into them or checking them out or any such thing, but how do I deal with that if that happens?

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radiosilence95's picture

If April lashes out at you

If April lashes out at you when you try to approach her, maybe it's best if you just back off. Don't push her to talk about it. Sometimes pushing people out of their comfort zone is good, other times not so much. If you keep pushing her she's just gonna keep getting angrier and angrier until you may lose a friend. Leave it alone, and when she's ready to open up about it, make sure you're available to talk to. That's really all you can do.

About coming out to your female friends. A good way to explain things to them would be saying that having a lesbian friend isn't much different than having a guy friend. Ask them: if a straight girl and a straight guy can be friends, why can't a lesbian have female friends? Tell them that just because you're gay doesn't mean you wanna get with every girl in sight. They have nothing to worry about.