Can some one help?

Agona_d's picture

So I have these two friends and the both of them are like really good friends of mine.

Friend K is my trusted friend who I trust above everyone else. We don't get to hangout very often but I know that I can call her whenever I need to for advise or anything else. She was the first person I came out to in college and she took me clothes shopping in the women's section for the first time, and I just feel like she'll always be there for me if I need support.

Friend T is a good friend of mine too. I didn't really know her at first but over time we got closer and closer and closer and almost had a relationship, I had told her that I wanted to be a girl and she was okay with that which was great, but she told me that she had an off and on relationship with some one else so we couldn't be together until she decided whether or not she was going to break it off with him.

She wouldn't tell me who he was though.

One night friend T called me. She was really upset because she had gone through her boyfriends phone and was thinking that he was cheating on her because she thought he had other girlfriends. Little by little she told me more and more about him until I guessed his identity.

Sleaze A
Who is currently in a relationship with Friend K and has been cheating on her for the past month or two with Friend T!!!!

They're both really good friends of mine and I love them both to bits but I don't know know what I should do. I'm an honest person I don't like to lie to people. I want to tell friend K what is going on and I feel that it's the right thing to do but the last time we went shopping she said she was breaking up with him because she was going out of state for college.
Plus friend T has made me promise over and over again that I won't tell friend K about her and Sleaze A.

I just don't know what to do Friend K is breaking up with him and Friend T made me promise not to tell but I love Friend K so much and I feel like I have to speak up because she's like my best friend but...

I can't think of Sleaze A without feeling sick, and I feel like every time I talk to friend T that she asks me if I've told friend K and I don't know if it's right or not anymore to keep silent.

can someone just please just tell me what to do?


Ann's picture

I can't tell you what to do...

...but I can offer advice.
Maybe you can tell K the truth, but not now. Maybe you could tell K about this a year or two from now. Consider all the consequences of telling K what's been going on. If you were K or T, how would you want to be treated? If this were ten years from now, how would you view the situation?
Wanting to be honest with someone when it seems the truth might hurt them can be really hard. I hope everything works out for the best.