only dicks excite me not pussy help

sasha's picture

im 21 years old i know i been bisexual since i was 18 but since i stop meeting with girls only with boys and now i want to meet with girls again but i cant erection with them and im even shy,afraid and nervous of approaching girls again please help me this is really killing me and weighing me down from the inside:(....I NEED ADVICE HELP ME PLEASE.

jeff's picture

Umm...

There's really no advice to give you. I'm not sure why you can accept being bisexual, but not being gay, usually once you drift from straight that's the difficult part.

Maybe you like guys for sex, but want a more emotional committed relationship with a girl, so you're using the wrong test? I mean, an erection is a fickle barometer for nuance. Maybe you're just able to mess around with guys easier, since it's casual, but when it comes to a girl, you need to be in more of a relationship?! Only you can know that, though.

Or you went bisexual to keep one foot in heteronormativeland, and now you're ready to remove that foot and put both feet in gayland? You certainly wouldn't be the first person to say they were bi before going gay.

If you're mainly into guys now, be into guys for now. That falls squarely under the definition of bisexual. If you fall for some girl in the future, that's good, too. I'm not bi, but I don't think you get to just decide which gender you're going to be interested in next.

As for advice, stop worrying about labels. And by that I mean labels like: gay, straight, bi, male, female. Maybe your 20s will be all about dick, and your 30s will be a long term relationship with a woman. Enjoy whatever's working for you today.

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