In Light of Recent Events

lonewolf678's picture

There were times when Oasis was my outlet for when I had a bad day, or when I had a really great one. This is still the place I share things that my friends might not understand but people here would. This place is still, now more recently, a creative outlet. There are some great people here, we all have our bad days and good days.

We're all here together to help each other. That's what Oasis means to me, it's a place where we don't have to give names, we don't have to give pictures of our faces. This I can imagine means a lot to the younger members who have yet to come out and here is the only place where they can seek understanding, we've all been there at one point.

A place for advice, discussion, maybe sometimes light hearted forum games. A few members here have really helped me out a few times. Sure there were (many) times when I was being immature about things, the evidence still there, but I've moved beyond that. I've thrown my insecurities to the wind, and I'm a more better person because of that.

It was good to have people call me out on when I was being stupid and help me snap back to reality. Because the real world isn't unicorns prancing about farting rainbows everywhere. Although you'd be surprised with some subcultures. That's beside the point though, I'd really miss this place if it were gone.

Although I won't ignore that fact that this place has been slowing down significantly with activity. Coming back every now and again, the posts overlap with different dates, sometimes one to five posts a day if I estimated that correctly. Oasis originally meant for younger LGBT people, us older members can't just keep it around with no new members.

Sad but it can't always remain even though we can't part with it. There were some good times here, just hanging out. Surrounded with people who we could relate to and vice versa. Not that it's ending, that's Jeff's decision and his alone. But I'm getting that out in case it happens. I guess that's all I actually have for now.

- Lone Wolf

Comments

jeff's picture

Yeah...

everyone seems to hit on all the reasons I would hope as far as why Oasis is unique, much of which was mostly accidental, and only somewhat intentional.

I do like that it's anonymous, which seems to be against the grain of the Facebookization of the Internet.

And I would miss Oasis, as well. I'm not just out to get rid of it. But it does seem like it needs to stay current and relevant or disappear. And the things that make it unique make it more difficult to stay current or relevant, as it's hard to advertise Oasis or draw attention to it, since that seems to be how none of the current users found it, and it is a bit olde tyme making people write, and not just reposting things on Tumblr and liking things on Facebook.

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Bosemaster42's picture

"Olde Tyme",

You know I find it funny to hear you say that about the site. I think having to communicate through writing is the best way to exchange information or ideas. Although, I may be in the minority, the abbreviated text language so prevalent today is maddening to me. It takes me more time just trying to figure out what some people are trying to say with short texts, especially with some of my friends.

jeff's picture

I agree...

... but that doesn't make either of our views current. ;-)

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Bosemaster42's picture

True,

But I never cared too much about keeping up with the Jones' either.

jeff's picture

I don't...

... care about that in my personal life, but there's a different standard for running a site.

If you run a small bookstore, and a Borders moves in and takes away all your business, you pretty much go out of business. While it's true the site doesn't cost me any money, it does get my attention. So, if there's no need for the site, I should free up that attention for other pursuits.

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"You don't know you're beautiful." - Harry Styles