Fuck Gay Rights, and The Horse It Rode In On (or, why the gay community has no right to claim the T))

Perhaps We Should Leave's picture

I have fought hard for gay rights. My brothers and sisters have fought hard for gay rights. We rioted, we marched, we spoke, we died. We even have a letter in LGBT. We have been a part of this fight since the beginning.

In my opinion, this fight is over. This fight has been over, and within two years, the idea of fighting for 'gay rights' will have become redundant. And yet I am waiting for my gratitude. I am waiting for the acknowledgement.

DADT was repealed. Homosexuals and Bisexuals are now allowed to openly serve in the military. In the eyes of many, that fight is over. Did you know that I cannot serve my country? Did you know that as a transgendered woman, I am not allowed to do so? Funnily enough, nobody seems to mention that when they speak of LGBT rights. It seems that in a lot of cases, once the gay community (especially gay men) have achieved their rights, the 'LGBT rights' movement moves right on. Perhaps it makes sense that most folk call it 'gay rights'.

Fuck you. Fuck you all.

LGBT is a misnomer. The transgendered community is not part of the LGBT community, nor should it. I ask why, especially given that LGB are all sexualities, and the T bit tends toward gender. The two are not intrinsically connected; Transgendered isn't a sexuality. Most people respond with the idea that the trans community is also discriminated against, so it makes sense. Others point out that the trans community has fought alongside the LGB community for a long time. I think that those are really stupid reasons. First, blacks and jews have always been discriminated against, but I don't see a J in there, nor does the B refer to skin color. They're also discriminated against. Before one claims that they're different from LGBT, again I repeat that T is veery different from LGB. The second argument is also bunk; yes, we have fought for the LGB community, but I'll be damned if I see the gay community fighting for us. Yes, a few of them do. But not the community as a whole. Seriously, fuck you.

I have seen enough discrimination against trans people within the gay community to know that our loyalty to them has been misplaced. I see the gay community claim to care about the trans folk, but then when we ask for help, the vast majority ignore us. Perhaps not working against us, or actively hating us, but I don't see the gay community fighting for trans rights like we've fought for them. It's bullshit, and posturing. The gay community has failed us. Me. And I'll be damned if I fight another day for the folk who've failed to fight for me.

Anymore I don't feel an ounce of sympathy for gay rights. I don't care anymore. I don't care to be the bigger man, as it were, and rise above ignoring gay rights like they've ignored trans rights. Fuck that shit. That's just another way to get people to do what you want. Seriously, fuck that. Let the altruistic transfolk do that. I'm not altruistic, I'm angry and vengeful. I'll flat out admit it- I will preach my point of view to people to ensure that there are fewer people buying into the bullshit, I will preach to my brothers and sisters to make them stop fighting for they gay community. The trans community has been taken advantage of- perhaps not by every individual, but by the (mostly white-gay-cis-man) community as a whole. And as such, I will fight against them. I hate the gay community. Not the individuals, and naturally I will continue to support any individuals who need it. But as for the people who fight for 'gay rights' without paying attention to the killing and oppression of transfolk? I'll see you burn.

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jeff's picture

Eh...

You're not comparing similar things. Transgender people have never been allowed to serve in the military. LGB people were banned recently (we'll skip lots of nuance for time) with DADT, which was supposed to make the military more open to LGB servicemembers, but had the opposite effect, so it was recently removed and LGB people can now serve. But the trans issue was never included as part of repealing DADT, since it was never part of it. So, there was no trans exclusion since there was never a trans element to that legislation.

When it comes to legislation, there are almost never sweeping reforms. A bad law passes, it is removed. Another law is introduced, and it has its own life, and on and on. A bad law being removed is rarely the cause for nationwide reform, unless it becomes a Supreme Court case that nullifies many state laws simultaneously (like the sodomy ruling in one state removing it from all others, etc.)

Now, if you look at ENDA, you'd have a stronger point since there was a movement to pass it with the trans/gender identity parts removed, since that was holding it from passage. An argument could easily be made on both sides, since passing it would have been much easier back then, whereas almost nothing is getting through now, etc., etc.

Of course, the linkage exists for the benefit of the transfolk, since they are a younger constituency than the LGB as far as visibility, networking, etc. And there is good reason to stay tethered to the white gay money machine whenever possible.

I can't say I really fight for "gay rights" anyway, aside from giving money to the ACLU and saying it is for LGBT rights that I donate. I'm too much of a libertarian to get mired in the battles they do.

Like the Duck Dynasty guy being homophobic was fine by me. It's free speech. Of course, the network firing him was also fine, since it is their right. Him having a show is not connected to his free speech. People protesting was their free speech, and on and on. I rarely support boycotts, think the only thing change.org changes is the amount of people who think they are participating, etc.

Oasis is a form of activism for me, but more individually focused, so it doesn't require me or the site to have positions on anything, which is preferred.

But the larger point is that the T joined the LGB, there is no real upside to the LGB claiming the T politically or for any other altruistic reason. And how the L dictated it needed to go before the G is a whole other issue, although in fairness we were running out of words that start with GL to use as group names anyway...

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Perhaps We Should Leave's picture

You have an excellent point

As always, with just about everything here.

I especially agree with you on the Duck Dynasty thing. I mean SERIOUSLY. I may not be libertarian (more like meritocrat) but I'll be damned if I don't respect free speech above any ideology. Ditto with the firing. I can't believe how stupid are being about that.

And about ENDA- much better example.

But yeah, there are benefits to it, but it doesn't really make me feel less angry. The reason I see people claiming the T is largely so that they can say 'Look how goddam inclusive we are'. And yeah, the T joined the LGB... but I really don't feel that it should remain.

My primary anger isn't at people being actively malicious, but passively apathetic. In any case, I respect your points. Thanks.

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The woods are lovely, dark, and deep.
But I have promises to keep,
and miles to go before I sleep,
and miles to go before I sleep.

jeff's picture

Eh...

Apathy has its place in the world. Sometimes it is the only option to keep going...

I mean, with the homeless, unemployed, starving, disease, wars and such happening around the globe, you can't really take all that in regularly and enjoy a few spins around the sun... so, the blinders have to be deployed.

I think the T should remain AND have its own groups and agenda, too. It isn't either/or. But the the T(ea) Party in the GOP, sometimes the larger group is going to do stuff you don't like, but you have to stick around and keep pushing your agenda. Sometimes your agenda will hold up the larger party, and people will vilify you, too.

I wouldn't have a personal goal for the T community, though. Help advance your cause however larger things unfold, but most importantly, enjoy your life, fall in love, find community, and really nail things down that will ultimately matter more than the big picture things. They started before you and will go on after you, so just nudge them along while you thrive personally.

Unless you want to make your mark politically as an activist and make that your life. That is a different thing, though.

Of course, I don't do moderation... so, I only see polar options.

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Perhaps We Should Leave's picture

Heh.

Mostly my activism is limited to making my ideas clear and moving on. I don't care to lead, I don't care to force- I merely care to speak. I don't feel that my job is to 'enlighten', just express. If others agree, so be it.

Mostly I just write this stuff to get it off my mind. Therapy, as it were.

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The woods are lovely, dark, and deep.
But I have promises to keep,
and miles to go before I sleep,
and miles to go before I sleep.

jeff's picture

That...

Seems healthy enough.

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